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The Best Career for Your Personality Type – by Truity 19/02/2017

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Looking at the infographic, the best careers for INFJ are School Counselor, Writer, Interior Designer, Pediatrician or Veterinarian.

I’m not sure that’s what I really want to do.

I like being a teacher more than a school counselor; and I did have a dream to become a doctor, but not as Pediatrician or Veterinarian even though I love pets.

Seeing careers of each personality I kinda think there are several that suit me also, like Surgeon, Scientist, or Psychologist.
 
 
Source: https://www.truity.com/infographic/best-career-your-personality-type-infographic
 
 

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Happy Karaoke Time 18/02/2017



 
 

Sometimes I go to karaoke, singing some songs that I like. I listed here some songs (140 songs) that I sang in karaoke before. I usually go to Karaoke room alone or with some female friends. I love to sing but in Islam, our religion, female are not allowed to sing in front of male counterparts, so I don’t sing in public. Even in a karaoke room (it is soundproof, isn’t it?), I am wary of them so when male employee came to check on us whether we want additional hour, I stopped singing until he came out of the room.

I prefer to go to some karaoke places which have a score display after we sang the song. Even though the score is not really accurate, and we don’t understand how the scoring is done, but it still creates curiosity for me to know what score I will get after singing.

 

   List of the songs

2PM – Again and Again → 80

2PM – Heartbeat → 95

2PM – I Hate You → 99

Aaliyah – Try Again → 78

Adele – Rolling in the Deep → 97

Adele – Someone Like You → 84

Afterschool – Flashback → 84

Agnes Monica – Teruskanlah → 82

Ailee – Heaven → 98

Alicia Keys – If I ain’t Got You → 80

Amy Winehouse – Rehab → 84

Angela Zhang – Journey → 76

Avril Lavigne – Complicated → 83

Avril Lavigne – I’m With You → 76

Avril Lavigne – Skater Boy → 77

Baek Ji Young – That Woman → 95

Barbie Hsu & Vic Zhu – Rang Wo Ai Ni → 75

Big Bang – Fantastic Baby → 78

Big Bang – Number One → 90

BoA – Eat You Up

BoA – Hurricane Venus → 76

Britney Spears – Circus → 86

Britney Spears – Everytime → 91

Britney Spears – Lucky → 84

Britney Spears – Overprotected → 99

Britney Spears – Toxic → 80

Britney Spears – Womanizer → 94

Bryan Adams & Barbara Streisand – I Finally Found Someone → 84

Bunga Citra Lestari – Kecewa → 88

Bunga Citra Lestari – Pernah Muda → 72

Bunga Citra Lestari – Tentang Kamu → 75

Celine Dion – All By Myself → 70

Celine Dion – Goodbye’s The Saddest Word → 92

Celine Dion – I’m Your Angel → 91

Celine Dion – Immortality → 82

Celine Dion – Lets Talk About Love → 84

Celine Dion – That’s The Way It Is → 75

Celine Dion – To Love You More → 84

Celine Dion & Clive Griffin – When I Fall in Love → 86

Christina Aguilera – Beautiful → 87

Christina Aguilera – Genie in a Bottle → 90

Christina Aguilera – Reflection → 70

Coco Lee – Before I Fall in Love → 80

Craig David – Don’t Love You No More → 71

Craig David – Unbelievable → 80

DBSK – Mirotic → 94

Destinys’ Child – Emotion → 85

Destinys’ Child – Stand Up For Love → 95

Destinys’ Child – Survivor → 78

Dewi Lestari – Malaikat Juga Tahu → 84

Duffy – Mercy → 84

Faith Hill – There You’ll Be → 78

Fergie – Big Girls Don’t Cry → 89

G-Dragon – Heartbreaker → 72

Geisha – Jika Cinta Dia → 83

Girls’ Generation – Gee → 73

Girls’ Generation – Genie → 87

Girls’ Generation – Hoot → 96

Girls’ Generation – Oh! → 95

Girls’ Generation – Run Devil Run → 90

Girls’ Generation – The Boys [English Version] → 75

Hugh Grant & Drew Barrymore – Way Back into Love → 70

Hyorin – Crazy for You → 97

Hyuna & Hyunsaeng – Trouble Maker → 83

Infinite – 24 Hours → 70

Infinite – Amazing → 78

Infinite – Back → 73

Infinite – Be Mine → 95

Infinite – Before The Dawn → 99

Infinite – Can You Smile → 80

Infinite – Destiny → 71

Infinite – Last Romeo → 91

Infinite – Love Letter → 85

Infinite – Man In Love → 80

Infinite – Paradise → 93

Infinite – She’s Back → 98

Infinite – The Chaser

Irene Cara – Fame → 70

IU – Good Day → 95

Jason Mraz – I’m Yours → 94

Jazmine Sullivan – Bust Your Windows → 94

Jennifer Lopez – Jenny From the Block → 74

Joy Enriquez – How Can I Not Love You → 86

Katy Perry – Firework → 91

Kelly Clarkson – Because of You → 97

Kelly Clarkson – Breakaway → 97

Kim Sunggyu – I Need You → 71

Kim Sunggyu – Only Tears → 97

Lady Gaga – Just Dance → 86

Lea Salonga & Brad Kane – We Could Be In Love → 78

LeAnn Rimes – Can’t Fight The Moonlight → 96

Lindsay Lohan – Rumor → 98

Lyn – My Destiny → 93

M2M – Mirror Mirror → 78

M2M – Pretty Boy → 84

Madonna – Music → 80

Mariah Carey – Against All Odds → 73

Mariah Carey – Hero → 97

Mariah Carey – Obsessed → 86

Mariah Carey – My All → 85

Mariah Carey – Through The Rain → 74

Mariah Carey & Whitney Houston – When You Believe → 80

Martina McBride – My Valentine → 71

Michael Jackson – Heal The World → 78

Miley Cyrus – The Climb → 70

Miss A – Bad Girl Good Girl → 97

Miss A – Breathe → 92

Miss A – I Don’t Need A Man → 73

Miss A – Touch → 87

Natalie Imbruglia – Torn → 100

Peabo Bryson & Regina Belle – A Whole New World → 94

Pixie Lott – Mama Do → 93

Rihanna – Don’t Stop the Music → 93

Rihanna – Take a Bow → 80

Rob Thomas – Lonely No More → 98

Robbie Williams & Nicole Kidman – Something Stupid → 74

Secret – Poison → 85

Secret – Shy Boy → 96

Shania Twain – Don’t Be Stupid → 86

Shania Twain – Man! I Feel Like A Woman! → 75

Shania Twain – That Don’t Impress Me Much → 96

Sherina – Cinta Pertama dan Terakhir → 76

SHINee – Ring Ding Dong → 85

Sia – Chandelier → 93

Sistar – Alone → 74

Spice Girls – Goodbye → 94

Super Junior – Bonamana → 97

T-ara – Bo Beep Bo Peep → 95

Taeyeon – If → 95

Tatu – All The Things She Said → 87

Taylor Swift – You Belong With Me → 87

The Corrs – Breathless → 91

The Corrs – Only in My Sleep → 86

The Pussycat Dolls – Stick With You → 77

The Rembrandts – I’ll Be There For You → 80

The Virgin – Cinta Terlarang → 90

Tiffany – Because It’s You → 74

Tiger JK & Jinsil – Reset → 80

Tony Braxton – Unbreak My Heart → 88

Utada Hikaru – First Love → 91
 
 

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Thank You, Friends!

Filed under: About Me — hifni1985 @ 8:56 am
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For me, a friend is still a friend even though we rarely talk to each other or haven’t met for years. It’s not quantity but quality of the relationship that matters to me. The friends that I hold dear to my heart, even though years have passed, they will still occupy that place in my heart.

As I’m pretty much a private person, I know it’s not easy to get close to me in the first place. Many have even feel scared of me and knowing that I’m a hard to approach person, choose to stay away from me altogether. They are not wrong. It’s their choice.

But some people came to me knowing that and try harder until I warm up to them and we get to know each other pretty well. I really appreciate them for that.

Some even said to me that they have misunderstood me from my first impression and now as they get to know me, I’m nothing like they thought of me at first.

I, have no control over what people think of me, but I stay true to my nature. I don’t change just to get people to like me. And so, people who like me, like me for who I am, both in weakness or strength.

So for those of you who have become my friends, I would like to say thank you.

Let our friendship flourish, even as time passes by.
 
 

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Seeking a Soulmate in Marriage 17/02/2017

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I seek a soulmate in marriage, a life long partner, a friend, a lover, someone I can have deep conversation with. Together we’re understanding and accepting, with genuine care for each other.

So I take my time and do not rush a marriage.
As I’m still single now, isn’t that simply mean I just haven’t found the one?
I believe in destiny, everything will happen in the right place and time.

I don’t have a distinct criteria, and maybe “he” we don’t know who, also don’t set a criteria, so it takes more time for us to recognize each other.

“People will get scared if you still pursue higher education.”
I’m not superficial, I don’t put a materialized criteria, like social status, money, car, job, education level, etc for my husband-to-be.

While education for me is just like a hobby. It’s not something to determine someone’s better or worse, and it should never be used for that. It’s just how some societies think. But I always believe everyone is equal.

“You’re already past 30. Women should get married already at that age.”
Still I won’t be rushing. What good will come out of it?

And,
Asking me now when I will get married won’t change anything since I don’t have a partner, yet.
Asking me to open my mind, well, I’m actually a very open minded person if you get to know me.
Asking me to open my heart, I’m sorry, my heart is not a free way pass. I’ll share my heart only with the one I love.

Still I appreciate the concern.

But don’t worry, I’m learning to be happy by myself, and when I found the one I get to love sooner or later, we’ll be even happier together.
 

Smile 

 
 

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My Responsibility to be Happy 16/02/2017

Filed under: Reflections — hifni1985 @ 8:33 pm
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I have the responsibility to be happy, for my mom and for myself.

So I have decided not to let anything or anyone made me feel otherwise.

Well, like I said it will always be a long life struggle.

But I’m starting to get the knack of it.

I used to care so much about what people think, say, or do,
that It influenced me for days, weeks, months, or even years.

Now I try to focus on myself more no matter what people think, say, or do.

And It actually works.

Now even if I’m upset, sad, or down, it doesn’t stay for long like before.

Just remember that what you think of yourself, what you feel about yourself, and
what you do for yourself is what matters the most.

And The Only One you need to be in favor of and to seek help from is Allah SWT, The Almighty.

Then Life becomes simple.
 
 

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Are all INFJs Highly Sensitive People? – by Deborah Ward @ Truity 15/02/2017

Filed under: Personality — hifni1985 @ 8:46 pm
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I knew starting from I was a child that I am a sensitive person. Although I am not quite sure up to what degree, high or just average. I took some personality tests which result is me as an INFJ. Although I know that it’s not quite right to label ourselves just into several categories since personality is fluid and not static but the categories of personality do help us to learn more about ourselves. And by reading several descriptions, INFJ does seem to match me quite well. Then comes a question, is being sensitive a part of nature as an INFJ? This writing by Deborah Ward @ Truity shed some light into my curiosity.
 
 

Are all INFJs Highly Sensitive People?


 
 
Quiet but passionate, wise but childlike, creative but caring, these gentle, intuitive people are highly complex and often misunderstood individuals. But are we describing INFJs or HSPs? Or are they the same thing? Many of the characteristics of the INFJ personality can also describe a highly sensitive person (HSP). Whether you are an INFJ, an HSP or both, it’s important to understand who you are and what you need to be happy.

What is an INFJ?

INFJs are Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Judging personality types. They are gentle, caring and creative people who are highly attuned and sensitive to people’s feelings. Their deep sense of intuition and insight means they are able to understand people and situations instinctively.
While they are often found in caring roles, and helping people whenever they can, they dislike conflict and violence and will go out of their way to avoid it. Conflict and stress takes a toll on INFJs, and they can experience health problems as a result.

INFJs aren’t interested in group activities, small talk or superficial relationships. They want and need deep and meaningful connections with a select few people with whom they can talk about ideas and relate to on an emotional and even spiritual level. Despite their caring nature and natural empathy, the INFJ’s focus is internal, and they are driven by the world of ideas, meanings and possibilities, as well as a lifelong search for personal growth, identity and authenticity.

What Is an HSP?

Psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron coined the term Highly Sensitive Person in 1991 when she discovered that many people, like herself, had a more sensitive nervous system. And the condition is more common than you might think – approximately 20% of the population are highly sensitive. Researchers have identified high sensitivity in many animal species as well, including dogs, cats and horses.

HSPs are often mislabelled and misunderstood as introverted, shy, insecure, fearful, and socially anxious, but high sensitivity is none of these. It’s an innate trait that some individuals are born with, like blue eyes or brown hair. Aron’s research shows that an HSP’s brain actually works differently than other brains, making the person more aware of subtleties and giving them the ability to process information more deeply. Consequently, HSPs can easily feel overstimulated and overwhelmed by sights, sounds, smells, crowds, bright lights and even the emotions of people around them. They feel stressed when they have too much to do at once and cannot bear violence or injustice. They usually have a deep appreciation for art, music, animals and nature.

HSPs are also vulnerable to developing low self-esteem and can experience anxiety, depression and shyness because of the lack of acceptance of their trait. Western culture tends to value outgoing, extraverted personalities and the sensitive, thoughtful HSP can easily feel criticised, unappreciated and unaccepted.
Unlocking the Four-Letter Code

Let’s take a look at the four dimensions of an INFJ and see how they compare to HSPs:

I – Introversion. Introversion and extraversion are not about how outgoing or talkative you are, but how you get your energy. Introverts get energy and recharge by spending quiet time alone, often reading, taking nature walks, listening to music or engaging in creative activities. Extraverts are energised by socialising and participating in stimulating activities. Both INFJs and HSPs have a lot of internal energy, so they don’t need as much stimulation from the external world. They both tend to live in a world of thoughts and ideas, and too much stimulation from their environment can be stressful. According to Aron, most HSPs are Introverts, however, approximately 30% of HSPs are Extraverts, so they would be more like ENFJs.

N – Intuition. The second letter can be either an S for Sensing or an N for Intuitive. This dimension describes how you take in information. Sensing types focus on facts and concrete details in the outside world, while Intuitive types, like INFJs, learn by thinking about ideas, feelings and trusting their intuition. HSPs are also very intuitive people, preferring to navigate life with the help of their own instincts, thoughts and feelings. They tend to avoid experiences that stimulate the senses, like nightclubs, shopping malls and parties because they are overwhelming. Psychologist David Keirsey suggested the symbol of the dolphin to describe INFJs. Dolphins use a sonar system to communicate and navigate through the world. Like dolphins, INFJs use their strong sense of intuition. Similarly, HSPs’ sensitivity is like a sonar system, allowing them to be aware of and understand subtleties in their environment.

F – Feeling. The third letter is not about whether you Think, as a T, or Feel, as an F. It reveals how you make decisions. Thinking types use logic and objective analysis while feeling types base their choices on personal values and consideration for people. Feeling types can be just as logical and intelligent as thinkers, but they place a higher value on compassion than rules. This focus on people and values describes a key decision-making process for both INFJs and HSPs.

J – Judging. The fourth letter can be either P, Perceiving or J, Judging, and deals with how we run our lives. Perceiving types are flexible, open to change and can have a hard time finishing what they start. Judging means you prefer to stick to a plan, a schedule and a structure, allowing this type to be more organised and get things done. For this aspect of the personality, INFJs and HSPs may differ. Highly sensitive people can be organised, methodical and seek closure, but they can also be less structured and more interested in starting a project than finishing it. In this respect, they can be more like an INFP. But there’s a key difference. INFJs, more than INFPs, are known for being determined and passionate about their work and pursuing their goals with the intensity of their convictions – qualities that are also key characteristics of the creative, sensitive HSP.

Coping in the World

So what does this mean for the INFJ and HSP? The combination of the four INFJ traits translates into a person who is focused on ideas and possibilities, and often struggles with the mundane tasks, details and practicalities of life. Like HSPs, INFJs have specific needs, challenges and coping methods, some of which are addressed below.

1. Peace and quiet

Both INFJs and HSPs need a lot of quiet time to recharge their energy. They both find outside stimuli such as noise, activity, lights and people not only distracting, but stressful and at times exhausting. This is because the INFJ’s strength is internal and they are highly sensitive to the outside world. Of course, only negative stimulation overwhelms them. Both INFJs and HSPs thrive when exposed to gentle stimuli like beautiful music, art, a calm atmosphere, a walk in nature and the time to think.

2. Compassion and empathy

Despite feeling overwhelmed by noise, crowds, people and their demands, both INFJs and HSPs feel a deep-rooted desire to help others, not to look good, but because they want to make the world a better place. They don’t want to rescue people as much as inspire and motivate them to help themselves. This personality type can not only understand other people intuitively, but they can often feel their emotions as well. The strong feeling function in INFJs creates a gift for empathy and compassion, a trait shared by HSPs. Unfortunately, they are also vulnerable to becoming people pleasers and victimised by selfish and demanding individuals who take advantage of their caring nature.

3. Authentic relationships

INFJs and HSPs are intelligent, insightful and thoughtful individuals who value deep, meaningful, and genuine connections with people. INFJs and HSPs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They have little time for superficial relationships or small talk, and often see through sales tactics, deception and facades. They love in-depth, mentally stimulating conversations and one-on-one discussions. But that doesn’t mean HSPs and INFJs are missing all the fun. Research suggests that when it comes to happiness and well-being, quality conversations matter more than quantity.

4. A meaningful career

Unlike most people, INFJs and HSPs need more than a steady job and a paycheck. They need a career with a purpose. Despite their quiet, gentle, and sensitive natures, INFJs/HSPs are passionate about their values and beliefs. They are not motivated by money, fame or personal glory, but by making a difference and standing up for those in need. Consequently, many INFJs and HSPs seek careers in the healing professions such as healthcare or counselling. Their sensitive, creative natures also provide them with a talent for language, writing, speaking and communicating and they may seek careers in teaching, publishing or the arts.

5. Creativity

The sensitivity, empathy, insight and heightened sense of awareness of INFJs and HSPs mean they are naturally creative people. A study at Northwestern University shows a clear link between a person’s inability to filter out external stimulation and their creativity — and we know that INFJs and HSPs are sensitive to their environments. Creativity helps the INFJ/HSP express their emotions, solve problems, and release the pent-up energy they’ve absorbed from their external world. In his book, The Neuroscience of Personality, Professor Dario Nardi explains that INFJs need time away from external stimulation to get into the relaxed mental state where they can create connections and engage in the introspective process in which they excel. When INFJs are free to express themselves and explore the possibilities they see so vividly in their imaginations, they flourish.

Ultimately, we cannot say for certain whether all INFJs are HSPs, but it seems they probably are. Most HSPs are either INFJs or INFPs — the ones that don’t tend to be ENFJs or ENFPs. Whether you’re one or both, it’s important to know what stresses you, what overstimulates you and what makes you feel calm, relaxed and happy. With their caring, compassionate nature, deep desire to help and tendency to feel overwhelmed, it’s essential that INFJs and HSPs take care of themselves first.
 
 
Source: https://www.truity.com/blog/are-all-infjs-highly-sensitive-people
 
 

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Jealous of Knowledge 14/02/2017

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I’ve been saying that I never get jealous of someone with wealth or someone with power or someone with popularity, but I’m always jealous of someone with knowledge.
 
Back then when I was a student, I never felt jealous of some students who drove to school while I walked nor I felt embarrassed walking in old socks and shoes to school and I even stood proud against a student who mocked me about it.
But when someone solved a math problem better than I did, I admired and was jealous at the same time. And then asked her how she solved it.

 
Even now I’m still the same.
 

So I never chase after money or have any ambition for some positions in an office, or wish to become a celebrity.
But I always want to learn.
 

Learning is like a thirst I can’t seem to fulfill no matter how much water I drink.
 

And I’m not a genius or anything but I always believe there’s no knowledge in this world you can’t learn. As long as you put efforts, you can do it no matter how long it takes.

 

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