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The Many Facets of Me 14/04/2017

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There are many conflicting sides of me.
I am diligent and lazy,
talkative and quiet,
organized and messy,
both logical and emotional,
caring yet ignoring,
smart but foolish,
strong but weak,
clean but dirty,
bold and shy,
both confident and doubtful in myself.
have both feminine and masculine traits,
independent but want to depend on someone,
thoughtful but sometimes unsympathetic,
could not hate but sometimes full of hatred,
forgiving but holding grudge,
adventurous yet Scaredy-cat,
sometimes rarely worried, sometimes full of worries,
sometimes kind, sometimes not,
have strong memory but sometimes forgetful,
full of suspicions but try to believe in goodness of others,
full of interests but sometimes not having interest in anything,
difficult to be approached but sometimes have an open mind to accept,
both visual and auditory,
right brained and left brained,
etc…
(I could list these all years)
 
That’s why I love to learn about myself.
 
I am like a Rubik’s cube with no matching color.
So you can’t solve me.
 
And it could take forever to know me.
Because even I always find something new about myself.
 
People always try to label someone else, but I often found a little bit of myself in someone else.
 
Even when I do a personality quiz or psychology, no analysis could be 100% correct, and I could relate to some points on other results. Choosing choices in those quizzes sometimes was not easy because there could me more than one options I could relate to or sometimes there was none but I had to choose one.
 
There are too many facets of me.
But oh well, like a gemstone, the many facets could increase its value.
So there’s no need to feel discourage.
 

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The Potential in an INFJ Relationship 13/04/2017

Filed under: Personality — hifni1985 @ 1:52 pm
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Source: http://www.personalityrelationships.net/

 
 

For some personality types, relationships can come about quite easily; but for an INFJ, relationships can be significantly more difficult to initiate and traverse. This particular Myers-Briggs personality type is defined as being introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. INFJ is a rare but intriguing personality to come across and even more unusual to find in the male gender. In fact, it is estimated that only about one to three percent of the population exhibits INFJ. When it comes to dating and relationships, INFJ individuals have their work cut out – as does a prospective partner of this personality type.

 
 

INFJ Characteristics

 

The standard traits of INFJ individuals (introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging) create only a basic template for this personality. The nickname for this type of disposition is “The Protector.” Being an observant and compassionate soul, individuals with this kind of persona will go to great lengths to avoid hurting or upsetting others and are very protective of those they care about. Although easy to approach due to their warmth and gentility, “protectors” are also perfectionists who strive to create order and flawlessness in their worlds. This character type tends to be very creative and artistic, especially in the field of writing due to their profound understanding of emotion and keen eye for detail. Being an INFJ is as close as a human might come to being empathic. This kind of individual is sensitive, perceptive, and highly likely to stick with a gut instinct about a person or situation; and their instincts are usually right. As prone as this character is to picking up on others’ feelings, intentions, and general personality traits, this particular individual will be less likely to offer up their own feelings and may be accused of “holding back” in their relationships, primarily romantic ones.

 

Their penchant for self-reliance can be an issue, especially in a relationship. An INFJ is so used to relying on his or her own instincts (using the “I’m always right” justification) that they may have a tendency to dismiss others’ opinions, sometimes even before they have a chance to listen to the other party. This can be exceptionally problematic when a partner picks up on this unbalance and questions his or her value in the relationship. Their natural attention to detail and perfectionism leads to less fun in a teamwork situation. In fact, INFJs often prefer to work alone because, in their opinion, that’s the only way that everything will be done to their high standard. In a relationship, this persona may become annoyed with a partner who introduces chaos to their carefully crafted environment. Turning the tables, INFJs can irritate partners by frequently striving for perfection which often overflows into the relationship itself. A “protector” can be controlling in that he or she takes to planning and organizing well in advance and will often make decisions single-handedly. This stubborn character will frequently reassess the priorities in their life to ensure that they live up to their full potential, though rarely will they feel as though they have achieved this high goal.

 
 

INFJ Relationships

 

For the right partner, a “protector” can make a wonderful spouse and parent. Although easily able to move on past a relationship that clearly is not working, this individual will be completely devoted to the right person and is most likely in search of a long-term relationship. The “protector” is very gentle and makes a good listener. Their trustworthy intuition can also be a wonderful trait for an individual who needs/appreciates the reassurance that INFJ individuals can provide. A relationship with a protective personality like this can feel one-sided because the “protector” takes charge and often makes decisions without consulting others. They also show so much interest in others’ feelings, concerns, and desires yet they rarely share their own. Although seeming to always be the rock-like force for others to confide in, “protectors” are easily hurt (likely due to the fact that it takes a lot of time and trust to share their inner selves with others).

 

An individual who seeks a well-organized and closely-knit family would do well to partner up with an INFJ. This personality will usually have very close, loving, and nurturing relationships with their children as well as their spouse. Although idealistic and reserved, this persona has strong values that will not easily be tossed aside. This trait, paired with a constant need to think and plan towards the future, can make for a steady and reliable partner and future parent.

 
 

Compatible Personality Types

 

There are four primary Myers-Briggs personalities that seem to get along best in INFJ relationships. One such personality is the ENFP (extravert, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving). This personality shares intuitiveness yet the extravert trait is a nice complement to the “protector” persona. ENTP (extravert, intuitive, thinking, perceiving) is another personality type that gets along well with the INFJ for the same reasons. INTJ (introvert, intuitive, thinking, judging) displays many of the primary personality traits as the INFJ and will likely be more understanding and accepting of an INFJ’s “ways.” By the same logic, the fourth most suitable personality type is another INFJ.

 
 

Relationship Guidance for the INFJ

 

Traditionally, this persona finds it difficult to initiate relationships which can result in very few serious relationships and long bouts of loneliness. If this sounds familiar, then you’ll know that this scenario is usually related to the difficulty you have sharing your inner self and your deep-seated need to put others’ happiness before your own. Once you snag the attention of a potential partner, your compassionate and easy-to-approach nature often helps to bring them in for closer scrutiny. One who passes the test, so to speak, will likely cause you to bend over backwards (of your own accord) to see them happy. Just remember that your own strong desire to please a partner shouldn’t outweigh your own desires and values.

 

As a “protector,” it can be difficult to push aside your instincts and listen to the views of your significant other, especially if you truly feel that you are right. Even the most laid-back partner will appreciate having his or her opinion listened to and considered seriously. Your desire to jump into planning-mode may also make a potential partner uneasy. While this particular trait may be seemingly impossible to ignore, consider a compromise in which you can kick-start a bit of early planning yet hold off on any decision-making until you’ve had a chance to discuss options with your significant other. This is paramount in any situation that affects your partner and/or your relationship.

 
 

Tips for Dating an INFJ Personality

 

A prospective partner needs to understand the INFJ’s need to take it slowly when revealing their inner self. It can be difficult to be around someone who so easily seems to understand you, especially when they give so little back in the way of opening up. Patience and an appreciation for your INFJ’s passionate and enthusiastic nature will go a long way in the relationship. Eventually you will crack the stubborn shell of your “protector” and get to know the creative, sensitive, and compassionate soul that lies beneath. You will find that your INFJ partner has high expectations of you. For the most part, these will be reasonable expectations but don’t be afraid to speak up if you begin to feel that your partner is laying the pressure on too thickly. If you begin to feel overwhelmed with your significant other’s need to seek control, take the chance to gently remind your partner that you deserve to have your opinions and thoughts heard. Ultimately, don’t take your partner’s feelings about you lightly; if they are willing to stick around then you should know that they genuinely care for you and will eventually let you through each layer of their being.

 

Your INFJ partner easily picks up on the moods of others around them and often seeks a way to make everyone happy. This can be exhausting for your companion, so respect their inevitable need to “recharge” after a social situation. Some quiet time at home will usually do the trick. Although your partner may appear to be a social butterfly, remember that at heart he or she will struggle to divulge their own feelings to others, even your friends; so don’t be too upset if your partner doesn’t instantly open up to your pals. Also, too much spontaneity and impulsiveness can send up a red flag to your partner, making it difficult for them to view you as a stable, long-term partner. Ultimately, this may lead to an inadvertent relationship sabotage.

 
 

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2010 Movie Releases I Have Watched 09/04/2017

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Happy Thoughts: Here Are the Things Proven To Make You Happier 17/03/2017

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by Eric Barker

Source: http://time.com/49947/happy-thoughts-here-are-the-things-proven-to-make-you-happier/
 
 

 
 

What’s the secret to a head full of happy thoughts?

Time to round up the research on living a happy life to see what we can use.

First, yeah, a good chunk of happiness is controlled by your genes but there’s a lot you can do to make yourself happier. Many of these techniques have been repeatedly tested and even worked with the clinically depressed.

 

Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude

I can’t emphasize this one enough. Showing gratitude for the good things you have is the most powerful happiness boosting activity there is.

It will make you happier.

It will improve your relationships.

It can make you a better person.

It can make life better for everyone around you.

Bronze medalists are happier than silver medalists. Why? They feel grateful to get a medal at all.

Every night before you go to bed write three good things that happened to you that day. Jotting those down is pretty much all it takes to get a boost in well-being over time.

There’s a second lesson here: the reverse is also true. Keeping track of the bad things will make you miserable. A convenient memory is a powerful thing. Do not train your brain to see the negative, teach it to see the positive.

Wanna make yourself and someone else extremely happy? Try a gratitude visit. Write someone a letter thanking them and telling them how much what they have done for you means. Visit them and read it in person. It’s a proven happiness WMD. More info here.

 

Do what you are good at as often as you can

Signature strengths” are the things you are uniquely good at and using them increases happy thoughts. Exercising signature strengths is why starving artists are happier with their jobs.

Think about the best possible version of yourself and move toward that. Signature strengths are the secret to experiencing more “flow” at work and in life.

 

Spend as much time as possible with people you like

Spend as much time as possible with people you like. The happiest people are social with strong relationships. Not spending more time with people we love is something we regret the most.

Being able to spend more time with friends provides an increase in happiness worth up to an additional $133,000 a year. (Values for your other relationships are here.)

Being compassionate makes us happier (causal, not correlative.) Share the best events of your day with loved ones and ask them to do the same. And compliment them — we love compliments more than money or sex.

But I’m an introvert, you say? A little bit of extraversion here would do you good. Happiness is more contagious than unhappiness so with amount of exposure to others well-being scales.

 

Money is good. Many other things are better.

After about 75K a year, money has minimal effects on happiness. Read that again. Not that money won’t increase happiness but if you want to be happier your time and energy are better spent elsewhere. It will not increase your moment to moment mood.

The Amish are as satisfied as billionaires and slumdwellers can be surprisingly happy. The happiest of all income groups is people making 50-75k a year. Money is good but wanting money can be bad.

 

Give

Giving makes us happier than receiving. In fact, it can create a feedback loop of happiness in your life. Volunteering makes us happier and can therefore be the most selfless way to be selfish.

Helping others reach their goals brings joy. Doing nice things for others today can literally make you happier for the rest of the week.

 

Savor

Take time to really enjoy the good things. What are the best ways to savor?

  • Positive mental time travel : Happy memories or looking forward to something
  • Being present : Not letting your mind wander and being absorbed in the moment.

Savoring is one of the secrets of the happiest people. Focusing on the limited time you have in this life is a good way to remind you to savor what is important.

 

Strive

You don’t usually do what brings you joy, you do what is easy. Set ambitious goals and strive. Thinking about what happens to you in terms of your self-esteem will crush you — look at life as growing and learning.

Sitting on the couch watching TV does not make you happy. You are happier when you are busy and are probably have more fun at work than at home. Thinking and working can beat sad feelings. A wandering mind is not a happy mind. Mastering skills is stressful in the short term and happiness-boosting in the long term.

 

Be optimistic, even to the border of delusion

Optimism is key. Yes, pessimism softens the blow of bad news but it isn’t worth it.

Does this make you out of touch with reality? Maybe but being a little deluded is good:

  • People with positive illusions about their relationship are more satisfied, score higher on love and trust and have fewer problems.
  • Overconfidence increases producitivity and improves teamwork.
  • Self-deception has been associated with stress reduction, a positive self-bias, and increased pain tolerance, all of which could enhance motivation and performance during competitive tasks.

Love means being slightly deluded. Happy people believe their partner is a little more awesome than they really are. Someone you think is great who also thinks you’re great — it’s one of the primary things you should look for in a marriage partner.

Thinking happy thoughts, giving hugs and smiling sound like unscientific hippie silliness but they all work.

 

Fundamentals are fundamental

Cranky? Before you blame the world, eat something. Take a nap — it can purge negative emotions and increase happy thoughts. Sleep is vital because your mood in the morning affects your mood all day.

Get your sleep. You cannot get away with cheating yourself on sleep and being tired makes it harder to be happy.

 

Frequency beats intensity

Lots of little good things is the path to happiness. You want frequent boosts not rare big stuff. (And this explains the best method of how to split a dinner bill with friends.) For the most part, don’t bother to try and reduce the bad so much as you increase the good.

Stop thinking about big events that might make you thrilled — it’s the little things of everyday life that make lasting improvements to our happiness. You’re not going to win the lottery and it wouldn’t have the impact you think it would.

 

Avoid life’s most common regrets

We know what people most often regret before they die:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

There are things you can do every day to improve your life.

 

This piece originally appeared on Barking Up the Wrong Tree.

 

Park Gun Young – The Dawn of Abalone Recipe [E121] 16/03/2017


 

 

Battle 2 Winning Recipe of Please Take Care Of My Refrigerator Episode 121

 

● Ingredients

Cheese bread, abalone, kimchi, sesame seeds, grapefruit juice, green onions, garlic, onion, soy sauce

● How to cook :

1. Remove the sediment from the cheese bread and cut into the appropriate size and bake in the oven.

2. Separate the shell and flesh of the abalone, wash it thoroughly, cut the sheath with a lattice, and cut to the appropriate size.

3. Chop the green onions and dip them in cold water.

4. Cut the lobster to the proper size.

5. Cut the garlic and slice the onion finely.

6. Bake steaming.

7. Fry the garlic and garlic sauce on a pan covered with oil, add soy sauce, sesame seeds, and trimmed onions and fry them together.

8. Chop the roasted steak.

9. Put abalone in fried ingredients and fry together.

10. Bake cheese bread in a dry pan.

11. Roasted abalone and vegetables are roasted on baked cheese bread.

12. On top of the soil, top off the papaya, grapefruit, and roasted kimchi.

 

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Choi Hyun Seok – Kkanchoso Recipe [E121] 15/03/2017


 

 

Battle 1 Recipe 2 of Please Take Care Of My Refrigerator Episode 121

 

● Ingredients

Beef galbitsal (Boneless short ribs), tofu, noodles plane, instant ox tail soup, seasoning, onion, red pepper, minced garlic, vegetable oil, starch, pepper, salt, soy sauce, garlic, Qingyang pepper, soy sauce, red pepper paste

● How to cook :

1. In a bowl, put onions, red pepper powder, chopped garlic and boiled oil, and turn it into a microwave oven.

2. Cut the small calf to the appropriate size, then put it in the hand blender.

3. Add starch, pepper, salt, and soy sauce to the liver galbbit.

4. Cover the tofu with a cotton swab and squeeze the water.

5. Mix the tofu tofu with seasoned beef ribs to make a ball.

6. Galbi tofu egg white egg and starch in turn, then fried in oil.

7. Remove fried ribs tofu and remove grease.

8. Garlic is crushed and Chungyang red pepper is chopped.

9. Boil the noodles in boiling water.

10. Filter the chili oil on the sieve.

11. Put oil, pepper oil, groomed garlic and Cheongyang red pepper, soy sauce, instant tail gomtang soup in pan with oil.

12. Add the seasoning and the kochujang to the boiled ingredients to make a gyoza sauce.

13. Put the ball fry into the ketchup sauce.

14. Rinse the side of the knife in cold water.

15. Fry the meatballs with chili sauce and red pepper oil in a sauce made of chili sauce.

16. Put the fried noodles in a bowl.

17. Sprinkle the white part of the green onion, rinse in cold water, and place on the stir-fried noodles.

18. Sprinkle with chili oil.

 

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Sam Kim – Gar Crush Recipe [E121] 14/03/2017


 

 

Battle 1 Winning Recipe of Please Take Care Of My Refrigerator Episode 121

 

● Ingredients

Beef galbitsal (Boneless short ribs), spices, bean paste, sugar, minced garlic, soy sauce, onion, green onion, flour, garlic, Qingyang pepper

● How to cook :

1. Fan miso, sugar, minced garlic in oil, wrapped around. Put the soy sauce, stir fry together.

2. Add the water to the fried ingredients and boil the miso sauce.

3. Onion and green onions Appropriate size of the white portion, then buried in flour and fried in oil.

4. Remove greasy fried onions and greens.

5. Put water in the flour and make a dough.

6. Slice the raw noodles into boiling water and cook.

7. Fry the crushed garlic, finely chopped red pepper and chopped green onion in a pan with oil, add the onion with
finely chopped calabash and flour and fry.

8. Add the miso sauce, finely chopped green pepper and pepper to the fried ingredients, and boil the miso sauce.

9. Put red pepper powder and pepper in miso sauce.

10. Add the boiled noodles to the miso sauce and fry.

11. Put the seasoning on the roasted side and fry together.

12. Fry the miso ribs on the plate, then put onions and fried onions.

13. Finish with chopped red pepper.

 

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