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Happy Thoughts: Here Are the Things Proven To Make You Happier 17/03/2017

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by Eric Barker

Source: http://time.com/49947/happy-thoughts-here-are-the-things-proven-to-make-you-happier/
 
 

 
 

What’s the secret to a head full of happy thoughts?

Time to round up the research on living a happy life to see what we can use.

First, yeah, a good chunk of happiness is controlled by your genes but there’s a lot you can do to make yourself happier. Many of these techniques have been repeatedly tested and even worked with the clinically depressed.

 

Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude

I can’t emphasize this one enough. Showing gratitude for the good things you have is the most powerful happiness boosting activity there is.

It will make you happier.

It will improve your relationships.

It can make you a better person.

It can make life better for everyone around you.

Bronze medalists are happier than silver medalists. Why? They feel grateful to get a medal at all.

Every night before you go to bed write three good things that happened to you that day. Jotting those down is pretty much all it takes to get a boost in well-being over time.

There’s a second lesson here: the reverse is also true. Keeping track of the bad things will make you miserable. A convenient memory is a powerful thing. Do not train your brain to see the negative, teach it to see the positive.

Wanna make yourself and someone else extremely happy? Try a gratitude visit. Write someone a letter thanking them and telling them how much what they have done for you means. Visit them and read it in person. It’s a proven happiness WMD. More info here.

 

Do what you are good at as often as you can

Signature strengths” are the things you are uniquely good at and using them increases happy thoughts. Exercising signature strengths is why starving artists are happier with their jobs.

Think about the best possible version of yourself and move toward that. Signature strengths are the secret to experiencing more “flow” at work and in life.

 

Spend as much time as possible with people you like

Spend as much time as possible with people you like. The happiest people are social with strong relationships. Not spending more time with people we love is something we regret the most.

Being able to spend more time with friends provides an increase in happiness worth up to an additional $133,000 a year. (Values for your other relationships are here.)

Being compassionate makes us happier (causal, not correlative.) Share the best events of your day with loved ones and ask them to do the same. And compliment them — we love compliments more than money or sex.

But I’m an introvert, you say? A little bit of extraversion here would do you good. Happiness is more contagious than unhappiness so with amount of exposure to others well-being scales.

 

Money is good. Many other things are better.

After about 75K a year, money has minimal effects on happiness. Read that again. Not that money won’t increase happiness but if you want to be happier your time and energy are better spent elsewhere. It will not increase your moment to moment mood.

The Amish are as satisfied as billionaires and slumdwellers can be surprisingly happy. The happiest of all income groups is people making 50-75k a year. Money is good but wanting money can be bad.

 

Give

Giving makes us happier than receiving. In fact, it can create a feedback loop of happiness in your life. Volunteering makes us happier and can therefore be the most selfless way to be selfish.

Helping others reach their goals brings joy. Doing nice things for others today can literally make you happier for the rest of the week.

 

Savor

Take time to really enjoy the good things. What are the best ways to savor?

  • Positive mental time travel : Happy memories or looking forward to something
  • Being present : Not letting your mind wander and being absorbed in the moment.

Savoring is one of the secrets of the happiest people. Focusing on the limited time you have in this life is a good way to remind you to savor what is important.

 

Strive

You don’t usually do what brings you joy, you do what is easy. Set ambitious goals and strive. Thinking about what happens to you in terms of your self-esteem will crush you — look at life as growing and learning.

Sitting on the couch watching TV does not make you happy. You are happier when you are busy and are probably have more fun at work than at home. Thinking and working can beat sad feelings. A wandering mind is not a happy mind. Mastering skills is stressful in the short term and happiness-boosting in the long term.

 

Be optimistic, even to the border of delusion

Optimism is key. Yes, pessimism softens the blow of bad news but it isn’t worth it.

Does this make you out of touch with reality? Maybe but being a little deluded is good:

  • People with positive illusions about their relationship are more satisfied, score higher on love and trust and have fewer problems.
  • Overconfidence increases producitivity and improves teamwork.
  • Self-deception has been associated with stress reduction, a positive self-bias, and increased pain tolerance, all of which could enhance motivation and performance during competitive tasks.

Love means being slightly deluded. Happy people believe their partner is a little more awesome than they really are. Someone you think is great who also thinks you’re great — it’s one of the primary things you should look for in a marriage partner.

Thinking happy thoughts, giving hugs and smiling sound like unscientific hippie silliness but they all work.

 

Fundamentals are fundamental

Cranky? Before you blame the world, eat something. Take a nap — it can purge negative emotions and increase happy thoughts. Sleep is vital because your mood in the morning affects your mood all day.

Get your sleep. You cannot get away with cheating yourself on sleep and being tired makes it harder to be happy.

 

Frequency beats intensity

Lots of little good things is the path to happiness. You want frequent boosts not rare big stuff. (And this explains the best method of how to split a dinner bill with friends.) For the most part, don’t bother to try and reduce the bad so much as you increase the good.

Stop thinking about big events that might make you thrilled — it’s the little things of everyday life that make lasting improvements to our happiness. You’re not going to win the lottery and it wouldn’t have the impact you think it would.

 

Avoid life’s most common regrets

We know what people most often regret before they die:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

There are things you can do every day to improve your life.

 

This piece originally appeared on Barking Up the Wrong Tree.

 

Park Gun Young – The Dawn of Abalone Recipe [E121] 16/03/2017


 

 

Battle 2 Winning Recipe of Please Take Care Of My Refrigerator Episode 121

 

● Ingredients

Cheese bread, abalone, kimchi, sesame seeds, grapefruit juice, green onions, garlic, onion, soy sauce

● How to cook :

1. Remove the sediment from the cheese bread and cut into the appropriate size and bake in the oven.

2. Separate the shell and flesh of the abalone, wash it thoroughly, cut the sheath with a lattice, and cut to the appropriate size.

3. Chop the green onions and dip them in cold water.

4. Cut the lobster to the proper size.

5. Cut the garlic and slice the onion finely.

6. Bake steaming.

7. Fry the garlic and garlic sauce on a pan covered with oil, add soy sauce, sesame seeds, and trimmed onions and fry them together.

8. Chop the roasted steak.

9. Put abalone in fried ingredients and fry together.

10. Bake cheese bread in a dry pan.

11. Roasted abalone and vegetables are roasted on baked cheese bread.

12. On top of the soil, top off the papaya, grapefruit, and roasted kimchi.

 

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Choi Hyun Seok – Kkanchoso Recipe [E121] 15/03/2017


 

 

Battle 1 Recipe 2 of Please Take Care Of My Refrigerator Episode 121

 

● Ingredients

Beef galbitsal (Boneless short ribs), tofu, noodles plane, instant ox tail soup, seasoning, onion, red pepper, minced garlic, vegetable oil, starch, pepper, salt, soy sauce, garlic, Qingyang pepper, soy sauce, red pepper paste

● How to cook :

1. In a bowl, put onions, red pepper powder, chopped garlic and boiled oil, and turn it into a microwave oven.

2. Cut the small calf to the appropriate size, then put it in the hand blender.

3. Add starch, pepper, salt, and soy sauce to the liver galbbit.

4. Cover the tofu with a cotton swab and squeeze the water.

5. Mix the tofu tofu with seasoned beef ribs to make a ball.

6. Galbi tofu egg white egg and starch in turn, then fried in oil.

7. Remove fried ribs tofu and remove grease.

8. Garlic is crushed and Chungyang red pepper is chopped.

9. Boil the noodles in boiling water.

10. Filter the chili oil on the sieve.

11. Put oil, pepper oil, groomed garlic and Cheongyang red pepper, soy sauce, instant tail gomtang soup in pan with oil.

12. Add the seasoning and the kochujang to the boiled ingredients to make a gyoza sauce.

13. Put the ball fry into the ketchup sauce.

14. Rinse the side of the knife in cold water.

15. Fry the meatballs with chili sauce and red pepper oil in a sauce made of chili sauce.

16. Put the fried noodles in a bowl.

17. Sprinkle the white part of the green onion, rinse in cold water, and place on the stir-fried noodles.

18. Sprinkle with chili oil.

 

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Sam Kim – Gar Crush Recipe [E121] 14/03/2017


 

 

Battle 1 Winning Recipe of Please Take Care Of My Refrigerator Episode 121

 

● Ingredients

Beef galbitsal (Boneless short ribs), spices, bean paste, sugar, minced garlic, soy sauce, onion, green onion, flour, garlic, Qingyang pepper

● How to cook :

1. Fan miso, sugar, minced garlic in oil, wrapped around. Put the soy sauce, stir fry together.

2. Add the water to the fried ingredients and boil the miso sauce.

3. Onion and green onions Appropriate size of the white portion, then buried in flour and fried in oil.

4. Remove greasy fried onions and greens.

5. Put water in the flour and make a dough.

6. Slice the raw noodles into boiling water and cook.

7. Fry the crushed garlic, finely chopped red pepper and chopped green onion in a pan with oil, add the onion with
finely chopped calabash and flour and fry.

8. Add the miso sauce, finely chopped green pepper and pepper to the fried ingredients, and boil the miso sauce.

9. Put red pepper powder and pepper in miso sauce.

10. Add the boiled noodles to the miso sauce and fry.

11. Put the seasoning on the roasted side and fry together.

12. Fry the miso ribs on the plate, then put onions and fried onions.

13. Finish with chopped red pepper.

 

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10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman 09/03/2017

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Source: https://www.powerofpositivity.com/10-reasons-men-cant-handle-strong-woman/
 
 
I really like this post by the power of positivity, I red it yesterday. So I want to share it and keep it in my blog as a keepsake to read later on. I think I am a strong woman, even though I’m not sure how strong. I have overcome many challenges in my life and depend on no one but myself. And yes, that’s right, I am single. Sometimes I do feel that many guys are afraid of me, or think I am hard to approach. But no, I didn’t blame them and I didn’t blame myself. After all, I know that what’s not meant to be is not meant to be. They have every reasons but I’m not going to change just to please people. I am who I am. And if people love me, they should love me for who I am, in both strengths and flaws.
 
 

10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman

 
 

 
 
What exactly makes a strong woman? Her struggles, sacrifices, and selflessness. A strong woman has endured pain, overcome heart-wrenching experiences, and has allowed herself to be led by forgiveness. A strong woman has swam in deep and treacherous waters and held her breath as much as possible. This type of woman is self-sufficient, independent, loving, and has no fears of showing her vulnerability. The strong woman knows that one moment you are the teacher, and the next you might be the student. So, how does a woman like this keep a man?
 

Here are 10 reasons why most men can’t handle a strong woman:

 

1. A strong woman doesn’t need a man to fight for her.

 
A man needs to feel wanted. He needs to know that he is battling for the eternal love and admiration of his woman. A strong woman will show you that she loves her man, but she’s also independent and can manage on her own. The strong woman will fight for both of you, but she doesn’t need a man to fight her battles. If they have a problem, they deal with it. They don’t sit and wait, as victims, for a man to find the solution. Some men can’t handle this strength. If you choose to remain with this type of woman, be willing to walk beside her, not in front of her while pulling her to where you think she should be.
 

2. A strong woman knows what she wants.

 
Strong women know what they want, how to attain it, and remember all that they had to endure to get whatever they have. A woman like this knows what she wants. If she likes a man, she will go after him. She will not wait for the man to make the first move. Strong women have tenacious personalities that can be extremely intimidating for some men. They aren’t submissive. They love wholeheartedly and also can continue exploring the world, with a man or not. It takes a self-confident man to allow this type of personality to take charge.
 

3. A strong woman will require honesty and vulnerability.

 
Men have a hard time opening up to difficult questions. Strong women dive right into the depth of hurt, traumas, and life-changing experiences. They require a man who can be honest and vulnerable, because they have endured so much in their lives. They need to know that their mate can be available to navigate the ocean of uncertainties and travel the edges of madness. Strong women don’t fear the past. They excavate and search for those things that make us human. The strong woman will always find a strong man to stand tall with her in the face of diversity. Men tend to avoid vulnerability because they feel weak.
 

4. A strong woman is not intimidated by intimacy.

 
The strong woman will challenge a man in the most intimate of ways. She will require intimacy in all forms, from conversation to making love. She will hold nothing back. Because a strong woman is comfortable with her femininity, she will expect her man to also be open to all aspects of intimacy. She requires passion, desire and feel like she’s the one.
 

5. A strong woman can see right through lies.

 
Strong women are honest and expect complete trust in a relationship. She can sense lies in an instant, so don’t try to sugarcoat a white lie. Don’t give her bogus explanations. She has the ability to be a human lie detector. Being in a relationship with a strong woman requires that there is no holding back. She will never tolerate a sense of falseness and selfishness. If you can’t be with her completely, she will have no problem discarding you.
 

6. A strong woman requires integrity and consistency.

 
Women who have inner strength cannot tolerate irregularity or indecisive personalities. They want to know that the man they love has integrity, respect, and is a man of his word. If they start to feel that their man is pulling away, they will react accordingly and have no problem letting him go if they feel they are being played. They want to feel like they are loved unconditionally. If they feel disrespected, they will have no issues setting that on track. The worst thing you can do to a strong woman is make her feel weak.
 

7. A strong woman is intense.

 
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A strong woman has endured extraordinary challenges and obstacles in her life. She has had to be extremely powerful. She knows she can endure anything else in her path, so this kind of intensity is often times difficult for a man to understand. It’s intimidating because of all the emotions and thoughts that come with this type of persona. She is willing to share her scars, and expects you to do the same. There are no secrets in her world.
 

8. A strong woman will not wait for you.

 
This type of woman will follow you to the depth of hell if she knows you are committed to her. However, the moment you start to pull back, she will let you go. She will not wait for a man to decide if he wants her or someone better. Strong women don’t play little girly games. You are either in, or you are out. They will get hurt, lick their own wounds, and get back up ready to conquer whatever is next.
 

9. A strong woman will love you unconditionally.

 
The love from a strong woman is faithful. Just like mothers with their children, the strong woman will nurture and love her man fiercely. When she feels that love in return, she will do anything she can to make him feel loved. She will support him, help him, and fight for him to get what he deserves. Some men can’t handle this kind of unconditional love. They get frightened by the intensity and depth of giving. Many times it is in this stage that men flee from a strong woman. And, just as deeply as she loved you, she will also let you go. She knows her worth.
 

10. A strong woman will show you who you are.

 
It’s hard to accept the things we don’t like about ourselves when someone points them out. But, a strong woman will mirror those parts in her man that need addressing. She will be there to help show you how amazing and powerful you are. She will stand by you and show you worth, acceptance, and confidence. Some men cannot handle the emotional chaos that comes up with this projection. Strong woman will find strong men. The weak ones won’t make it past the first few dates.
 
They don’t know what to do with the honesty, strength, intelligence and independence. A strong man, most likely, was raised by a strong woman and will either deal with the dark night of the soul or leave. Strong women have no time to play games. So, if you can handle the intensity, love, honesty, and conversations, you might just be that strong man who can complement this type of woman.
 
 
Barry Paul Price writes, “Dating a strong woman is not something every guy can handle. He has to be confident in himself as a person, and as a man. Men must feel capable of meeting a woman’s needs. Traditionally, we did that providing financial security and physical protection. More recently, as women have expressed themselves with more independence and toughness, men aren’t sure how or when they’re needed by their woman. He ends up feeling unsure of his value and significance in the relationship. Many women tell me their man’s emotional support is just as important as financial and physical contributions. Unfortunately, men are not used to identifying masculinity with giving emotional support.”
 
 

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Happy Women’s Day! 08/03/2017

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Nowadays, women have experienced better situations compared to the past.

Years ago, woman was denied her right to choose a spouse and have to agree on arranged marriage made by her parents. But now woman has freedom to choose and even to an arranged marriage, woman is asked for consent.

Women were not allowed education in previous era, but now they can enjoy education equally.

People used to say to women, what’s the use of pursuing high education, because eventually you will end up in the kitchen.

Although some people are still stuck in such belief but some already have open mind.

Many women have pursued higher education ignoring some people surrounding who sneered upon them.

Others made remarks saying women shouldn’t pursue higher education or better career in case they lose men’s interest as men tend to dislike women with education or career higher than them.

But cheers to the women who choose not to be bounded by that words and keep trying to reach their dreams.

Some women have jobs, help pay the bills, and still do household cores alone. Kudos to all those superwomen. But so glad now some good men have common sense that household cores should be done together between men and women.

Woman used to be told not to voice opinion with man in the household but now it is custom to share opinions together and become each others’ partner in discussion.

Rules that bound women are made by society and cultures, but nonetheless those rules are made by human. So such rules are not something definite because as human changes, the rule changes as well.

Hopefully, rules that disregard women’s values are continue to be erased. May women grow confidence and become happier as their values in the society grow higher each and every day.

Happy Women’s Day!
 
 

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Don’t Judge and Generalize! 07/03/2017

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One of the things I dislike is when the society judge the quality of something greater by the value of something small.

For example, when a muslim does a crime, people say how could a muslim do that or even worse, judging Islam as the culprit behind his action or generalize that all muslims are subject of such crime.

While it is merely the fault of the person who could not control his behaviour, or does not apply what the religion teach him, or misinterpret things by his own accord.

Isn’t that the same as if you blame God for things done by humans?
I think it is inappropriate because humans themselves will face the consequences of his actions in the afterlife with Allah The Justice as The Judge.

That’s why don’t judge the book by its cover and don’t judge a person by his attributes.

Remember that each human has his own demon.
We are born good.
But we don’t stay good if we don’t work for it.
And people can change.
People don’t stay good or bad forever.

 

 

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