How Can Everyone Be Happy?


 

What is happiness?
In philosophy, happiness translates the Greek concept of eudaimonia, and refers to the good life, or flourishing, rather than simply an emotion.
In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being. -wikipedia

Everyone has different views of happiness, different things of what can make them happy, different ways of how to make them happy.
But I can ensure one thing, everyone wants to be happy.
What it is about happiness that it is so important to everyone.

 

How can everyone be happy?

 

If you ask this question to yourself, you might want to take a look on few articles of how everyone pursues their happiness.
Although it’s different to everyone, maybe you could get an inspiration for your own happiness.

 

How to Be Happy (A very good article)
https://www.wikihow.com/Be-Happy

45 Ways to be Happier Instantly
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/ways-to-be-happier-instantly_us_58cc0e1fe4b0be71dcf46b1a

How to Be Happy: The Complete Guide
http://www.lifecoachspotter.com/how-to-be-happy/

How to Be Happy Tips
https://howtobehappy.guru/

10 Ways to be Happier
https://www.realsimple.com/health/mind-mood/emotional-health/10-ways-happier

How to Be Happy
https://www.nytimes.com/guides/well/how-to-be-happy

 

Please remember that,
When there’s sadness, there’s happiness.
There’s nothing eternal in this world.
Happiness doesn’t last, but so does sadness.
Everything is going to be okay.
So never lose hope.

 

Disclaimer: picture is not mine, credit is in the picture.

Mom’s Smile is My First Motivation


I remembered when I was a kid; I was someone who was eager to learn. Being a curious child, I came to my brother’s school every day and stood by the door to look at the teacher’s teaching the lesson. I wanted to study as well but my age at that time had not reached school age, yet.

 

Few months after that, I started schooling 6 months faster because my parents asked the school’s principal whether I could start school faster since my interest to study was already quite strong. I love studying just for the sake of the knowledge that I got to know. But still it never crossed my mind I wanted to reach first rank at school. It was then until I reached 4th grade of elementary school, one day I was called to the teacher’s office. I was a bit worried and was wondering why they called me. I recalled that I didn’t do anything wrong, that was what I thought to myself. It turned out that they wanted me to hand in a standard student picture of me to be put on a certificate, because I got first rank in class. I was surprised. That was the first time it happened. Though I remembered I didn’t particularly feel overly happy or anything, just felt surprise. I didn’t even tell my mom about it until the day our report book was given to us and I came back to my house and told my mom that I got first rank in class and showed her the certificate.

 

At that time, it was still clear on my mind how my mom smiled beautifully and happiness was seen throughout her face. That’s when I suddenly felt something different in my heart. I realized that me getting first rank at class could make my mom so happy and bring smile to her face. So my heart felt soothing. I was happy to see my mom happy. It was what motivated me to study harder in oder to achieve first rank in class for the next and following terms also. I wanted to make my mom happy again and again.

 

It’s not the achievement but how the achievement could make my mom happy is the real achievement to me.

 

 

Happy Mother’s Day, Mom!

Mom will always be my inspiration.

I always keep our sweet memories in my heart.

May Allah Always Shelter Mom in The Blessings of True Happiness.

 

#MenulisAsyikDanBahagia

Happy Thoughts: Here Are the Things Proven To Make You Happier


by Eric Barker

Source: http://time.com/49947/happy-thoughts-here-are-the-things-proven-to-make-you-happier/
 
 

 
 

What’s the secret to a head full of happy thoughts?

Time to round up the research on living a happy life to see what we can use.

First, yeah, a good chunk of happiness is controlled by your genes but there’s a lot you can do to make yourself happier. Many of these techniques have been repeatedly tested and even worked with the clinically depressed.

 

Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude

I can’t emphasize this one enough. Showing gratitude for the good things you have is the most powerful happiness boosting activity there is.

It will make you happier.

It will improve your relationships.

It can make you a better person.

It can make life better for everyone around you.

Bronze medalists are happier than silver medalists. Why? They feel grateful to get a medal at all.

Every night before you go to bed write three good things that happened to you that day. Jotting those down is pretty much all it takes to get a boost in well-being over time.

There’s a second lesson here: the reverse is also true. Keeping track of the bad things will make you miserable. A convenient memory is a powerful thing. Do not train your brain to see the negative, teach it to see the positive.

Wanna make yourself and someone else extremely happy? Try a gratitude visit. Write someone a letter thanking them and telling them how much what they have done for you means. Visit them and read it in person. It’s a proven happiness WMD. More info here.

 

Do what you are good at as often as you can

Signature strengths” are the things you are uniquely good at and using them increases happy thoughts. Exercising signature strengths is why starving artists are happier with their jobs.

Think about the best possible version of yourself and move toward that. Signature strengths are the secret to experiencing more “flow” at work and in life.

 

Spend as much time as possible with people you like

Spend as much time as possible with people you like. The happiest people are social with strong relationships. Not spending more time with people we love is something we regret the most.

Being able to spend more time with friends provides an increase in happiness worth up to an additional $133,000 a year. (Values for your other relationships are here.)

Being compassionate makes us happier (causal, not correlative.) Share the best events of your day with loved ones and ask them to do the same. And compliment them — we love compliments more than money or sex.

But I’m an introvert, you say? A little bit of extraversion here would do you good. Happiness is more contagious than unhappiness so with amount of exposure to others well-being scales.

 

Money is good. Many other things are better.

After about 75K a year, money has minimal effects on happiness. Read that again. Not that money won’t increase happiness but if you want to be happier your time and energy are better spent elsewhere. It will not increase your moment to moment mood.

The Amish are as satisfied as billionaires and slumdwellers can be surprisingly happy. The happiest of all income groups is people making 50-75k a year. Money is good but wanting money can be bad.

 

Give

Giving makes us happier than receiving. In fact, it can create a feedback loop of happiness in your life. Volunteering makes us happier and can therefore be the most selfless way to be selfish.

Helping others reach their goals brings joy. Doing nice things for others today can literally make you happier for the rest of the week.

 

Savor

Take time to really enjoy the good things. What are the best ways to savor?

  • Positive mental time travel : Happy memories or looking forward to something
  • Being present : Not letting your mind wander and being absorbed in the moment.

Savoring is one of the secrets of the happiest people. Focusing on the limited time you have in this life is a good way to remind you to savor what is important.

 

Strive

You don’t usually do what brings you joy, you do what is easy. Set ambitious goals and strive. Thinking about what happens to you in terms of your self-esteem will crush you — look at life as growing and learning.

Sitting on the couch watching TV does not make you happy. You are happier when you are busy and are probably have more fun at work than at home. Thinking and working can beat sad feelings. A wandering mind is not a happy mind. Mastering skills is stressful in the short term and happiness-boosting in the long term.

 

Be optimistic, even to the border of delusion

Optimism is key. Yes, pessimism softens the blow of bad news but it isn’t worth it.

Does this make you out of touch with reality? Maybe but being a little deluded is good:

  • People with positive illusions about their relationship are more satisfied, score higher on love and trust and have fewer problems.
  • Overconfidence increases producitivity and improves teamwork.
  • Self-deception has been associated with stress reduction, a positive self-bias, and increased pain tolerance, all of which could enhance motivation and performance during competitive tasks.

Love means being slightly deluded. Happy people believe their partner is a little more awesome than they really are. Someone you think is great who also thinks you’re great — it’s one of the primary things you should look for in a marriage partner.

Thinking happy thoughts, giving hugs and smiling sound like unscientific hippie silliness but they all work.

 

Fundamentals are fundamental

Cranky? Before you blame the world, eat something. Take a nap — it can purge negative emotions and increase happy thoughts. Sleep is vital because your mood in the morning affects your mood all day.

Get your sleep. You cannot get away with cheating yourself on sleep and being tired makes it harder to be happy.

 

Frequency beats intensity

Lots of little good things is the path to happiness. You want frequent boosts not rare big stuff. (And this explains the best method of how to split a dinner bill with friends.) For the most part, don’t bother to try and reduce the bad so much as you increase the good.

Stop thinking about big events that might make you thrilled — it’s the little things of everyday life that make lasting improvements to our happiness. You’re not going to win the lottery and it wouldn’t have the impact you think it would.

 

Avoid life’s most common regrets

We know what people most often regret before they die:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

There are things you can do every day to improve your life.

 

This piece originally appeared on Barking Up the Wrong Tree.

Happy Women’s Day!



 
 
Nowadays, women have experienced better situations compared to the past.

Years ago, woman was denied her right to choose a spouse and have to agree on arranged marriage made by her parents. But now woman has freedom to choose and even to an arranged marriage, woman is asked for consent.

Women were not allowed education in previous era, but now they can enjoy education equally.

People used to say to women, what’s the use of pursuing high education, because eventually you will end up in the kitchen.

Although some people are still stuck in such belief but some already have open mind.

Many women have pursued higher education ignoring some people surrounding who sneered upon them.

Others made remarks saying women shouldn’t pursue higher education or better career in case they lose men’s interest as men tend to dislike women with education or career higher than them.

But cheers to the women who choose not to be bounded by that words and keep trying to reach their dreams.

Some women have jobs, help pay the bills, and still do household cores alone. Kudos to all those superwomen. But so glad now some good men have common sense that household cores should be done together between men and women.

Woman used to be told not to voice opinion with man in the household but now it is custom to share opinions together and become each others’ partner in discussion.

Rules that bound women are made by society and cultures, but nonetheless those rules are made by human. So such rules are not something definite because as human changes, the rule changes as well.

Hopefully, rules that disregard women’s values are continue to be erased. May women grow confidence and become happier as their values in the society grow higher each and every day.

Happy Women’s Day!
 
 

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My Responsibility to be Happy


 

I have the responsibility to be happy, for my mom and for myself.

So I have decided not to let anything or anyone made me feel otherwise.

Well, like I said it will always be a long life struggle.

But I’m starting to get the knack of it.

I used to care so much about what people think, say, or do,
that It influenced me for days, weeks, months, or even years.

Now I try to focus on myself more no matter what people think, say, or do.

And It actually works.

Now even if I’m upset, sad, or down, it doesn’t stay for long like before.

Just remember that what you think of yourself, what you feel about yourself, and
what you do for yourself is what matters the most.

And The Only One you need to be in favor of and to seek help from is Allah SWT, The Almighty.

Then Life becomes simple.
 
 

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My Resolution


I have promised myself to feel happy no matter what the circumstances. There are a lot of other people who have it harder than me. So I should not let anything discourage me. Even though not many things go according to my plan. Even though people not accepting of how I am. I should not let anyone or anything define how I should feel. It should be enough if I appreciate who I am and things that I have.
 
Every thing in this life change. The hard things in life will get better. You can lose something you have but you can also gain something new.
 

Nothing’s certain forever.

 
People’s opinion is fickle. One moment they can adore you. The very next day they could be your world’s greatest enemy. So just be yourself and don’t lose yourself in order to gain someone else’s favor.
Don’t lose yourself also because you’re upset of something you can’t change. Your wishes, your dreams, your ideals, it’s good for you to have them. But don’t push yourself too hard. Just focus on what you can do now. And who knows, your wishes, your dreams, your ideals, you will see them just along the road of your self-improvement.
 

So be always happy, where ever you are, what ever you do, who ever you are inside, when ever.

 
Thank you for the good people in your life.
 
Let go of who ever or what ever that doesn’t belong in your life.
 
Don’t hate. Because hatred is eating your soul inside.
 
Remember the good thing.
 
Forget the bad thing, or at least don’t let it get to you.
 
Be grateful to God.
 
Be a better human.
 

 

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20 Happy Habits


Harvard University Recommended 20 Happy Habits
1. Be Grateful
2. Choose Your Friends Wisely
3. Cultivate Compassion
4. Keep Learning
5. Become a Problem Solver
6. Do What You Love
7. Live in the Present
8. Laugh often
9. Practice Forgiveness
10. Say Thanks often
11. Create Deeper Connections
12. Keep Your Agreement
13. Meditate
14. Focus on What You’re Doing
15. Be Optimistic
16. Love Unconditionally
17. Don’t Give up
18. Do Your Best and then Let Go
19. Take Care of Yourself
20. Give Back
 

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