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My Personality Profile 18/09/2017

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Entrepreneurial and progressive, you are ever-striving, heading for the top, and enjoying an enterprising, ambitious and determined personality to do things well, and an unyielding dedication to your plan until the goals are achieved.
You bounce back easily from setbacks and can overcome any adversities or obstacles thrown in your way.
You make a good performer, but at the same time she can be quite intense and serious.
Your artistic talent is emphasized in the performing arts where sensitivity and understanding for people and situations is called for.
You can easily gain high respect in the community, being understanding of the views of others, and you often tend to achieve your goals.
When balanced, you are compassionate and emotionally secure. You are also a natural healer, with leadership qualities and the ability to genuinely empathize. You also radiate love and spiritual happiness to those around you.
By becoming aware of your emotions, you can gain control over them rather than have your emotions control your life. And the reward is great because then you show vast depth of understanding while keeping your emotions checked.
You were born with extra-ordinary drive and determination. You are a born leader. You insist on your right to make up your own mind; you demands freedom of thought and action, and do not let anything or anyone stand in your way once you are committed to your goal.
You assume the responsibility to be the protector and provider for those you love. You demand respect and attention and become irritated and even domineering when important things do not go your way.
You are exceptionally creative and original and possess a touch of the unusual. Your approach to problems is unique and you have the courage to wander from the beaten path or the traditional templates of thoughts and deeds. You can be impatient with your shortcomings and those of others.
Sometimes you are concerned with your status and foster the appearance of success and self-satisfaction. The need to appear well off propels you to strive for growth, success and the finer things of life.
You perform best when you left to your own devices. Ideally you should own your own business and be your own boss. You should hold fast to your life’s dream and work with the determination you possess to realize it. You can become overly stressed by your driven nature. You need to be careful about the food you eat and maintain an exercise program you enjoy. Competition sports are often a healthy outlet for a person with your drive, particularly sports involving running and swimming.
More often than not a person like you will achieve much in life as long as the drive, creativity, originality and pioneering spirit are fully employed!
You are highly intuitive and creative. Your mind think in pictures. You seem to draw information and ideas from out of the sky.
Your intuition is your gift, along with a powerful drive to know the Oneness of all things. You are so driven by spiritual pursuits that no matter what you do in life, the world of spirit and philosophy will be central to your daily behavior. You feel linked with the larger universal forces, and nothing will change that.
You have a fine mind and keen insights, but these do not come as a result of logic or rational thought. You are more likely to direct your life by inspiration, rather than by calculated reflections.
On some level, you know that you are in the hands of destiny, and that you must surrender to the higher powers that shape your life. You are usually a late bloomer. Your early and middle 30s tend to be years spent in apprenticeship and slow development. During this period, you can become frustrated with your progress, or the apparent lack of it.
You need to develop faith. You are a highly charged person with much to do, but you must develop character and sound judgment before you begin to tap your true potential. Just as a tree needs roots to grow tall, so need you to develop depth of character in order to begin to expand in the ways you desire and ultimately envision.
Your highly developed intuition makes you a wonderful counselor, healer, or health practitioner. You have a gift for inspiring people. Many people admire you without you knowing it. You are a visionary, and others sense your wisdom.
You are acutely sensitive and easily influenced by your surroundings. You love beauty and harmony. You also crave social interaction and much attention. You can be very emotional, often experiencing extremes of happiness and sadness. You are usually too easily hurt. You also get depressed easily and feel the lack of confidence during times you are in a dark mood.
Despite your sensitivity, you possess leadership abilities. You are modest, diplomatic and polite. You have also the ability to persuade, and can be quite forceful.
Your high sensitivity to others makes you compassionate, kind, and gentle. You have an opportunity for fame and success as long as you do not pursue either as your gods. You need to look for ways to help others and convey a larger message, with which you were blessed. This will bring you the material and social fruits you desire.
You are a free spirit. You love change, adventure, and excitement. You love your freedom. Like a bird that needs its wings to live, you cannot exist without it. Freedom is the nucleus around which your life revolves. You need it for your very survival. By using freedom properly, you are able to explore and develop all of your varied talents. You will meet many types of people and travel great distances. Freedom is the atmosphere necessary for you to bring forth your many talents.
You are capable of doing almost anything, and probably quite well. Only by avoiding the imprisonment of illusory security are you able to bring forth your abilities.
You are unusually adaptable. In fact, change is a blessing for you. In the same way, you needs challenge and variety. You hate the routine of life; being stuck is a catastrophe for you. You become miserable when you are held back or held down.
The taste and texture and color of life have an overpowering allure for you. From childhood, you dream of seeing foreign lands, experiencing the sensual and the exotic. You want to try everything at least once in life. All of life is a playground for your senses.
But this can get you into trouble. You may fail to respect your natural limits, either biologically or socially. Any sort of boundary is anathema to you, which can blind you to your natural limits.
You are gifted in your ability to communicate. Your facility with words is almost limitless. You can be a salesman, politician, lawyer, public relations person, and minister. You also possess the talent to share and advance new ideas. You are talented with your hands. You love the new and untried. Your field is the frontier. You are a bit of a gambler, and often plays for very high stakes. All of this combines to give you a youthful enthusiasm, which others find infectious and attractive.
You like to work with others, but needs to perform your task un-encumbered by the restraints of others.
You are a clever and a quick thinker, but your thought processes – like your life in general – can be unorganized and scattered. You must stay grounded and focused if you want to be successful.
Self-discipline and setting healthy limits is the key to your success in virtually every area of your life. Ironically, you will find that as you learn to set appropriate limits on yourself, you will develop more self-mastery and realize even greater freedom.
This is especially true when it comes to finishing what you start. Your tendency is to give up once you have got a project or job under control because you grow bored quickly. You start to fantasize about a new challenge, or the rewards of your great accomplishment, long before the work is finished.
You desire the whole world. You are aware that you have many talents that can bring much success. But that success depends on your willingness to choose certain areas to concentrate on, and to bring them to perfection.
You want peace and harmony in all aspects of your life. You want to devote your life to someone or something. You fall in love easily. You are extremely sensitive and emotional. You can be sentimental and you cry at sad stories. You need friends and society.
You appreciate the refinements of life. You desire comfort and security. You have also refined taste, and can be a connoisseur. You love music and possess a good deal of musical talent.
Your sensitivity is actually a symptom of your highly developed intuition, but you must learn to trust it. You are a gentle soul and you shy away from confrontation as long as possible. You experience a battle within when you do not believe you can handle a situation; this may have a paralyzing effect on you.
Sometimes you prefer to give in when you should assert yourself. You must learn to be more decisive. Very often, you are afraid to use your own power in the face of someone else’s aggressiveness. You incorrectly perceive yourself to be in a weaker position; You may ultimately give in merely to avoid a fight.
Conversely, you are extremely diplomatic and tactful. You like to accomplish things through quiet persuasion. You dislike force.
At times, you have to fight uncertainty and doubt. You need to develop confidence and a willingness to stand up for what you believes to be right.
You need to feel in command of important undertakings, and resists supportive roles. You seek the forefront and the limelight.
In contrast, you can also function best in a supportive role, guiding the more public person in quiet, unobtrusive, yet essential ways.
You appear strong and powerful. You have an impressive personality and can influence and even intimidate through sheer force. You have natural authority. Your competence and enthusiasm attract people with resources.
You radiate confidence. People defer to you because they sense your sureness and effectiveness. You also exudes a kind of controlled benevolence. People sense that you are generous, once you are convinced of the worthiness of the cause.
It is important for you to dress well. You radiate a kind of raw power and able-ness, which needs to be refined and enhanced by your clothing. You may even dress a bit flashy, because that will not harm you. Quality is among your highest priorities, and should reflect in your clothing.
You can be prone to indigestion, ulcers, and heart disease due to your reckless eating and your propensity to be workaholics.
Your Achilles heel is your capacity for an egocentric attitude. The negative side of your personality can cause you to be ruthless, greedy, and intensely lonely.
Conversely, you can be spontaneous and excited. You are essentially warm and jovial. In your heart of hearts, you want everyone to be as excited and as happy as you. Those who are around you often sense this, and your coworkers and other employees usually like you.
Throughout your life you will be concerned with the welfare of others. You will make your home the focus of your life, and fill your world with as much beauty as possible. In your later years you will find yourself surrounded by friends and family. This will ensure your joy and contentment.
As you mature, you will become increasingly concerned with the well-being of family, friends, and community. You will be drawn to the role as healer, counselor, and teacher – due to your growing ability to give comfort and sound advice to those in need.
You naturally assume the role of patriarch or matriarch of those in your care, no matter how old they are. You become more responsible and protective, and you may well become involved in environmental protection, volunteer work or politics.
You are naturally idealistic and strive to realize those ideals as you grow in maturity and in personal resources.
Your careful and balanced approach to business and financial matters provide you with sound and secure success later in life.
This provides an outstanding financial foundation for the future.
In addition, this promises an old age surrounded by loved ones. You could eventually have the close relationships that you have strived for most of your life.
Facing some issues, you retreat into some safe haven within yourself and hope you will not have to deal with the issue at hand. Yet, the clarity and analytical abilities of your mind are sufficient to provide you with insight into the problem, and a clear path to its solution.
You have to work at confronting yourself and the issues you face unemotionally and calmly. You can be engulfed in the emotional aspects of the issue, which clouds your mind and prevent you from using your clarity to find an answer.
But once you get past the emotion you will find an answer by yourself.
You will have luck in matters involving risk and new ventures. It will shine for you in times of change and even chaos and upheaval.
You will also have an edge when connected to matters of romance.
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The Potential in an INFJ Relationship 13/04/2017

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For some personality types, relationships can come about quite easily; but for an INFJ, relationships can be significantly more difficult to initiate and traverse. This particular Myers-Briggs personality type is defined as being introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. INFJ is a rare but intriguing personality to come across and even more unusual to find in the male gender. In fact, it is estimated that only about one to three percent of the population exhibits INFJ. When it comes to dating and relationships, INFJ individuals have their work cut out – as does a prospective partner of this personality type.


INFJ Characteristics


The standard traits of INFJ individuals (introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging) create only a basic template for this personality. The nickname for this type of disposition is “The Protector.” Being an observant and compassionate soul, individuals with this kind of persona will go to great lengths to avoid hurting or upsetting others and are very protective of those they care about. Although easy to approach due to their warmth and gentility, “protectors” are also perfectionists who strive to create order and flawlessness in their worlds. This character type tends to be very creative and artistic, especially in the field of writing due to their profound understanding of emotion and keen eye for detail. Being an INFJ is as close as a human might come to being empathic. This kind of individual is sensitive, perceptive, and highly likely to stick with a gut instinct about a person or situation; and their instincts are usually right. As prone as this character is to picking up on others’ feelings, intentions, and general personality traits, this particular individual will be less likely to offer up their own feelings and may be accused of “holding back” in their relationships, primarily romantic ones.


Their penchant for self-reliance can be an issue, especially in a relationship. An INFJ is so used to relying on his or her own instincts (using the “I’m always right” justification) that they may have a tendency to dismiss others’ opinions, sometimes even before they have a chance to listen to the other party. This can be exceptionally problematic when a partner picks up on this unbalance and questions his or her value in the relationship. Their natural attention to detail and perfectionism leads to less fun in a teamwork situation. In fact, INFJs often prefer to work alone because, in their opinion, that’s the only way that everything will be done to their high standard. In a relationship, this persona may become annoyed with a partner who introduces chaos to their carefully crafted environment. Turning the tables, INFJs can irritate partners by frequently striving for perfection which often overflows into the relationship itself. A “protector” can be controlling in that he or she takes to planning and organizing well in advance and will often make decisions single-handedly. This stubborn character will frequently reassess the priorities in their life to ensure that they live up to their full potential, though rarely will they feel as though they have achieved this high goal.


INFJ Relationships


For the right partner, a “protector” can make a wonderful spouse and parent. Although easily able to move on past a relationship that clearly is not working, this individual will be completely devoted to the right person and is most likely in search of a long-term relationship. The “protector” is very gentle and makes a good listener. Their trustworthy intuition can also be a wonderful trait for an individual who needs/appreciates the reassurance that INFJ individuals can provide. A relationship with a protective personality like this can feel one-sided because the “protector” takes charge and often makes decisions without consulting others. They also show so much interest in others’ feelings, concerns, and desires yet they rarely share their own. Although seeming to always be the rock-like force for others to confide in, “protectors” are easily hurt (likely due to the fact that it takes a lot of time and trust to share their inner selves with others).


An individual who seeks a well-organized and closely-knit family would do well to partner up with an INFJ. This personality will usually have very close, loving, and nurturing relationships with their children as well as their spouse. Although idealistic and reserved, this persona has strong values that will not easily be tossed aside. This trait, paired with a constant need to think and plan towards the future, can make for a steady and reliable partner and future parent.


Compatible Personality Types


There are four primary Myers-Briggs personalities that seem to get along best in INFJ relationships. One such personality is the ENFP (extravert, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving). This personality shares intuitiveness yet the extravert trait is a nice complement to the “protector” persona. ENTP (extravert, intuitive, thinking, perceiving) is another personality type that gets along well with the INFJ for the same reasons. INTJ (introvert, intuitive, thinking, judging) displays many of the primary personality traits as the INFJ and will likely be more understanding and accepting of an INFJ’s “ways.” By the same logic, the fourth most suitable personality type is another INFJ.


Relationship Guidance for the INFJ


Traditionally, this persona finds it difficult to initiate relationships which can result in very few serious relationships and long bouts of loneliness. If this sounds familiar, then you’ll know that this scenario is usually related to the difficulty you have sharing your inner self and your deep-seated need to put others’ happiness before your own. Once you snag the attention of a potential partner, your compassionate and easy-to-approach nature often helps to bring them in for closer scrutiny. One who passes the test, so to speak, will likely cause you to bend over backwards (of your own accord) to see them happy. Just remember that your own strong desire to please a partner shouldn’t outweigh your own desires and values.


As a “protector,” it can be difficult to push aside your instincts and listen to the views of your significant other, especially if you truly feel that you are right. Even the most laid-back partner will appreciate having his or her opinion listened to and considered seriously. Your desire to jump into planning-mode may also make a potential partner uneasy. While this particular trait may be seemingly impossible to ignore, consider a compromise in which you can kick-start a bit of early planning yet hold off on any decision-making until you’ve had a chance to discuss options with your significant other. This is paramount in any situation that affects your partner and/or your relationship.


Tips for Dating an INFJ Personality


A prospective partner needs to understand the INFJ’s need to take it slowly when revealing their inner self. It can be difficult to be around someone who so easily seems to understand you, especially when they give so little back in the way of opening up. Patience and an appreciation for your INFJ’s passionate and enthusiastic nature will go a long way in the relationship. Eventually you will crack the stubborn shell of your “protector” and get to know the creative, sensitive, and compassionate soul that lies beneath. You will find that your INFJ partner has high expectations of you. For the most part, these will be reasonable expectations but don’t be afraid to speak up if you begin to feel that your partner is laying the pressure on too thickly. If you begin to feel overwhelmed with your significant other’s need to seek control, take the chance to gently remind your partner that you deserve to have your opinions and thoughts heard. Ultimately, don’t take your partner’s feelings about you lightly; if they are willing to stick around then you should know that they genuinely care for you and will eventually let you through each layer of their being.


Your INFJ partner easily picks up on the moods of others around them and often seeks a way to make everyone happy. This can be exhausting for your companion, so respect their inevitable need to “recharge” after a social situation. Some quiet time at home will usually do the trick. Although your partner may appear to be a social butterfly, remember that at heart he or she will struggle to divulge their own feelings to others, even your friends; so don’t be too upset if your partner doesn’t instantly open up to your pals. Also, too much spontaneity and impulsiveness can send up a red flag to your partner, making it difficult for them to view you as a stable, long-term partner. Ultimately, this may lead to an inadvertent relationship sabotage.


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Left-Brain/Right-Brain Test – My Result 23/02/2017

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Left-Brain/Right-Brain Test

Studies on patients with brain damage have allowed scientists to determine how each side of the brain controls different functions. The left hemisphere, for example, specializes in language skills and logic. The right hemisphere allows us to recognize shapes and faces and express and read. Most people are not likely to be strictly left-brain or right-brained – we use each side of our brain depending on the task we’re dealing with. However, some theorists and researchers believe that there may be one side of the brain that we draw on more, which can in turn make the personality traits characteristic of that side of the brain to be more dominant than others.

We go through life attached to a lot of personality-related labels – introverted, optimistic, strong but silent, drama queen, etc. But left-brain or right-brain? These are not so well-known. Interestingly however, whether it is our left hemisphere that is more dominant or our right one, the distinction can impact our personality and the decisions we make. For example, left-brain people are more organized and systematic. Right-brain people are more creative and intuitive. So which side of your brain is more dominant?

How to read your results: If you score closer to the right side of the graph, your personality is more characteristically right-brain. If you score closer to the left side of the graph, your personality is more characteristically left-brain. If you score somewhere in the middle, you share characteristics of both sides of the brain.



Both your right and left hemisphere seem to have reached a level of perfect harmony – rather than trying to dominant each other, they work together to create a unique and well-balanced “you”. Your spontaneous, impulsive, and free-flowing right brain creates an exciting and adventurous world, while your left brain helps you make sense of it and keep track of everything.

When faced with a problem or a tough decision, you’re not only able to break things down and make an informed and sensible choice, but you’re also not afraid to go with your gut when necessary. You tend to express your individuality both in words and actions, and although you’re perfectly comfortable running on a schedule or planning things ahead of time, there are occasions when you love to throw in a little spontaneity.

Your balanced outlook and approach to life creates a desire in you to not only understand the world, but to also take it in your hands and mold it as you see fit. With both your right and left hemispheres working together to guide you, you are able to understand yourself and life in general from so many wonderful perspectives.



Kedua belahan otak kanan dan otak kiri Anda tampaknya telah mencapai tingkat harmoni yang sempurna – daripada mencoba untuk dominan satu sama lain, mereka bekerja sama untuk menciptakan “Anda” yang unik dan seimbang. Otak kanan Anda yang spontan, impulsif, dan bebas-mengalir menciptakan dunia yang menarik dan berpetualang, sedangkan otak kiri Anda membantu Anda memahami dan mengatur semuanya.

Ketika dihadapkan dengan masalah atau keputusan yang sulit, Anda tidak hanya mampu memilah berbagai hal dan membuat suatu pilihan yang masuk akal, tapi Anda juga tidak takut untuk mengikuti intuisi Anda bila diperlukan. Anda cenderung untuk mengekspresikan individualitas Anda baik dalam kata-kata dan tindakan, dan meskipun Anda merasa nyaman mengikuti jadwal atau merencanakan hal-hal sebelumnya, ada kalanya Anda senang untuk menambahkan sedikit spontanitas.

Pandangan dan cara menyikapi kehidupan Anda yang seimbang menciptakan keinginan dalam diri Anda untuk tidak hanya memahami dunia, tetapi juga mengambilnya di tangan Anda dan membentuknya sesuai keinginan Anda. Dengan kedua belahan otak kanan dan kiri Anda yang bekerja sama untuk membimbing Anda, Anda dapat memahami diri sendiri dan kehidupan secara umum dari begitu banyak perspektif yang indah.

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The Best Career for Your Personality Type – by Truity 19/02/2017

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Looking at the infographic, the best careers for INFJ are School Counselor, Writer, Interior Designer, Pediatrician or Veterinarian.

I’m not sure that’s what I really want to do.

I like being a teacher more than a school counselor; and I did have a dream to become a doctor, but not as Pediatrician or Veterinarian even though I love pets.

Seeing careers of each personality I kinda think there are several that suit me also, like Surgeon, Scientist, or Psychologist.

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Are all INFJs Highly Sensitive People? – by Deborah Ward @ Truity 15/02/2017

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I knew starting from I was a child that I am a sensitive person. Although I am not quite sure up to what degree, high or just average. I took some personality tests which result is me as an INFJ. Although I know that it’s not quite right to label ourselves just into several categories since personality is fluid and not static but the categories of personality do help us to learn more about ourselves. And by reading several descriptions, INFJ does seem to match me quite well. Then comes a question, is being sensitive a part of nature as an INFJ? This writing by Deborah Ward @ Truity shed some light into my curiosity.

Are all INFJs Highly Sensitive People?

Quiet but passionate, wise but childlike, creative but caring, these gentle, intuitive people are highly complex and often misunderstood individuals. But are we describing INFJs or HSPs? Or are they the same thing? Many of the characteristics of the INFJ personality can also describe a highly sensitive person (HSP). Whether you are an INFJ, an HSP or both, it’s important to understand who you are and what you need to be happy.

What is an INFJ?

INFJs are Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Judging personality types. They are gentle, caring and creative people who are highly attuned and sensitive to people’s feelings. Their deep sense of intuition and insight means they are able to understand people and situations instinctively.
While they are often found in caring roles, and helping people whenever they can, they dislike conflict and violence and will go out of their way to avoid it. Conflict and stress takes a toll on INFJs, and they can experience health problems as a result.

INFJs aren’t interested in group activities, small talk or superficial relationships. They want and need deep and meaningful connections with a select few people with whom they can talk about ideas and relate to on an emotional and even spiritual level. Despite their caring nature and natural empathy, the INFJ’s focus is internal, and they are driven by the world of ideas, meanings and possibilities, as well as a lifelong search for personal growth, identity and authenticity.

What Is an HSP?

Psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron coined the term Highly Sensitive Person in 1991 when she discovered that many people, like herself, had a more sensitive nervous system. And the condition is more common than you might think – approximately 20% of the population are highly sensitive. Researchers have identified high sensitivity in many animal species as well, including dogs, cats and horses.

HSPs are often mislabelled and misunderstood as introverted, shy, insecure, fearful, and socially anxious, but high sensitivity is none of these. It’s an innate trait that some individuals are born with, like blue eyes or brown hair. Aron’s research shows that an HSP’s brain actually works differently than other brains, making the person more aware of subtleties and giving them the ability to process information more deeply. Consequently, HSPs can easily feel overstimulated and overwhelmed by sights, sounds, smells, crowds, bright lights and even the emotions of people around them. They feel stressed when they have too much to do at once and cannot bear violence or injustice. They usually have a deep appreciation for art, music, animals and nature.

HSPs are also vulnerable to developing low self-esteem and can experience anxiety, depression and shyness because of the lack of acceptance of their trait. Western culture tends to value outgoing, extraverted personalities and the sensitive, thoughtful HSP can easily feel criticised, unappreciated and unaccepted.
Unlocking the Four-Letter Code

Let’s take a look at the four dimensions of an INFJ and see how they compare to HSPs:

I – Introversion. Introversion and extraversion are not about how outgoing or talkative you are, but how you get your energy. Introverts get energy and recharge by spending quiet time alone, often reading, taking nature walks, listening to music or engaging in creative activities. Extraverts are energised by socialising and participating in stimulating activities. Both INFJs and HSPs have a lot of internal energy, so they don’t need as much stimulation from the external world. They both tend to live in a world of thoughts and ideas, and too much stimulation from their environment can be stressful. According to Aron, most HSPs are Introverts, however, approximately 30% of HSPs are Extraverts, so they would be more like ENFJs.

N – Intuition. The second letter can be either an S for Sensing or an N for Intuitive. This dimension describes how you take in information. Sensing types focus on facts and concrete details in the outside world, while Intuitive types, like INFJs, learn by thinking about ideas, feelings and trusting their intuition. HSPs are also very intuitive people, preferring to navigate life with the help of their own instincts, thoughts and feelings. They tend to avoid experiences that stimulate the senses, like nightclubs, shopping malls and parties because they are overwhelming. Psychologist David Keirsey suggested the symbol of the dolphin to describe INFJs. Dolphins use a sonar system to communicate and navigate through the world. Like dolphins, INFJs use their strong sense of intuition. Similarly, HSPs’ sensitivity is like a sonar system, allowing them to be aware of and understand subtleties in their environment.

F – Feeling. The third letter is not about whether you Think, as a T, or Feel, as an F. It reveals how you make decisions. Thinking types use logic and objective analysis while feeling types base their choices on personal values and consideration for people. Feeling types can be just as logical and intelligent as thinkers, but they place a higher value on compassion than rules. This focus on people and values describes a key decision-making process for both INFJs and HSPs.

J – Judging. The fourth letter can be either P, Perceiving or J, Judging, and deals with how we run our lives. Perceiving types are flexible, open to change and can have a hard time finishing what they start. Judging means you prefer to stick to a plan, a schedule and a structure, allowing this type to be more organised and get things done. For this aspect of the personality, INFJs and HSPs may differ. Highly sensitive people can be organised, methodical and seek closure, but they can also be less structured and more interested in starting a project than finishing it. In this respect, they can be more like an INFP. But there’s a key difference. INFJs, more than INFPs, are known for being determined and passionate about their work and pursuing their goals with the intensity of their convictions – qualities that are also key characteristics of the creative, sensitive HSP.

Coping in the World

So what does this mean for the INFJ and HSP? The combination of the four INFJ traits translates into a person who is focused on ideas and possibilities, and often struggles with the mundane tasks, details and practicalities of life. Like HSPs, INFJs have specific needs, challenges and coping methods, some of which are addressed below.

1. Peace and quiet

Both INFJs and HSPs need a lot of quiet time to recharge their energy. They both find outside stimuli such as noise, activity, lights and people not only distracting, but stressful and at times exhausting. This is because the INFJ’s strength is internal and they are highly sensitive to the outside world. Of course, only negative stimulation overwhelms them. Both INFJs and HSPs thrive when exposed to gentle stimuli like beautiful music, art, a calm atmosphere, a walk in nature and the time to think.

2. Compassion and empathy

Despite feeling overwhelmed by noise, crowds, people and their demands, both INFJs and HSPs feel a deep-rooted desire to help others, not to look good, but because they want to make the world a better place. They don’t want to rescue people as much as inspire and motivate them to help themselves. This personality type can not only understand other people intuitively, but they can often feel their emotions as well. The strong feeling function in INFJs creates a gift for empathy and compassion, a trait shared by HSPs. Unfortunately, they are also vulnerable to becoming people pleasers and victimised by selfish and demanding individuals who take advantage of their caring nature.

3. Authentic relationships

INFJs and HSPs are intelligent, insightful and thoughtful individuals who value deep, meaningful, and genuine connections with people. INFJs and HSPs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They have little time for superficial relationships or small talk, and often see through sales tactics, deception and facades. They love in-depth, mentally stimulating conversations and one-on-one discussions. But that doesn’t mean HSPs and INFJs are missing all the fun. Research suggests that when it comes to happiness and well-being, quality conversations matter more than quantity.

4. A meaningful career

Unlike most people, INFJs and HSPs need more than a steady job and a paycheck. They need a career with a purpose. Despite their quiet, gentle, and sensitive natures, INFJs/HSPs are passionate about their values and beliefs. They are not motivated by money, fame or personal glory, but by making a difference and standing up for those in need. Consequently, many INFJs and HSPs seek careers in the healing professions such as healthcare or counselling. Their sensitive, creative natures also provide them with a talent for language, writing, speaking and communicating and they may seek careers in teaching, publishing or the arts.

5. Creativity

The sensitivity, empathy, insight and heightened sense of awareness of INFJs and HSPs mean they are naturally creative people. A study at Northwestern University shows a clear link between a person’s inability to filter out external stimulation and their creativity — and we know that INFJs and HSPs are sensitive to their environments. Creativity helps the INFJ/HSP express their emotions, solve problems, and release the pent-up energy they’ve absorbed from their external world. In his book, The Neuroscience of Personality, Professor Dario Nardi explains that INFJs need time away from external stimulation to get into the relaxed mental state where they can create connections and engage in the introspective process in which they excel. When INFJs are free to express themselves and explore the possibilities they see so vividly in their imaginations, they flourish.

Ultimately, we cannot say for certain whether all INFJs are HSPs, but it seems they probably are. Most HSPs are either INFJs or INFPs — the ones that don’t tend to be ENFJs or ENFPs. Whether you’re one or both, it’s important to know what stresses you, what overstimulates you and what makes you feel calm, relaxed and happy. With their caring, compassionate nature, deep desire to help and tendency to feel overwhelmed, it’s essential that INFJs and HSPs take care of themselves first.

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4 Things About You That Matter More Than Your Personality Type 12/02/2017

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By Molly Owens of Truity
People have dedicated immeasurable hours to the study of personality theory in an effort to understand what motivates our feelings, thoughts and behaviors. Enthusiasts have been known to get so involved in personality typing that they use it to predict a person’s health, career destiny, relationship potential, and even their sex drive! Once you’ve figured out your four letter code, you can spend hours on blogs and forums figuring out what’s in store for you based on your personal strengths and weaknesses.

While there’s a scientific basis for personality typing such as the theory put forward by Briggs and Myers, evidence from research studies shows us that personality is surprisingly fluid. Personality testing may act as one type of predictive tool, but it’s a lot more sophisticated than fitting traits into a box. In fact, there are dozens of variables that matter more to a person’s success and happiness than their personality type.

Curious? Let’s take a closer look.

#1: Values

“We are what we think,” taught Buddha which is a stylish way of saying, you are what you believe you are. We all play roles and we often wear masks that represent the image we want to show to the world. But the real us – the raw, unadulterated form of ourselves – remains the guiding force behind our actions. And that is not determined by a broad set of personality traits, it is determined by our values.

Values are the standards by which we order our lives and make our choices. It is possible to categorize many types of values such as those that relate to happiness, health, wealth, pleasure, success, recognition, tradition, honesty, benevolence, security or family. These are all subjective terms, which means that they will mean different things to different people. And they may even mean different things to the same person, depending on their life stage.

There are several differences between personality and values. Values are what we believe we ought to do. They reveal a lot about a person because they identify how people attach meaning, worth and importance to things. Personality is what we naturally tend to do, alongside others of the same personality type.

Personality traits do not conflict with one another, which means that a person can simultaneously express preferences for Introversion and Thinking, for example, or pleasure-seeking and achievement. Values do conflict. The choices that a person makes to pursue some values at the cost of others is what makes them entirely unique and determines the direction a life takes.

Blindly accepting personality as the determinant of success and failure takes away your power to decide what makes you happy based on your own values. For most people, that’s why personality typing is only half the story in getting to grips with their authentic selves.

#2: Resilience

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to bounce back from adversity while others seem to come undone? People who cope with stress and hardship have what psychologists call resilience, or an ability to cope with difficulties and setbacks. These difficulties might include illness, job loss, bereavement, natural disasters, divorce, or financial problems.

Resilience does not stamp out life’s difficulties. People who possess resilience do not experience less tragedy, grief or anxiety than others do. But their resilience allows them to tackle these problems head on and often, emerge stronger.

Some personality types are characterized as being unflappable in the face of crisis. However, psychologists agree that resilience is not an inborn trait, but learned. We know that strong social networks, responsive relationships, social support, and spirituality all make significant contributions to a person’s resilience. Those in stable and committed relationships, for example, will experience greater emotional security, improved health and higher self-esteem, regardless of their personality type. These are all factors that help us respond to adversity in healthy ways.

Resilience is important because it has been shown to have a moderating effect on life outcomes. People who are resilient typically experience better health, more psychological stability characterized by the ability to plan, monitor, and regulate behavior, and less stress under changing circumstances. These are the people who succeed, even excel, despite incredibly difficult circumstances.

#3: Learning

Personality theories tend to distinguish personality from intelligence, and it’s those psychological differences between people that aren’t primarily matters of ability that make personality theories so interesting. But being “intelligent” is not only about having a high IQ. It is now seen to include emotional, social and physical aptitude, having great communication skills, logic, musical ability or “life smarts” – and these types of intelligence can largely be acquired through learning.

Put simply, there’s a difference between those who love to learn and those who don’t. Enthusiastic learners will consider activities that broaden their perspective (such as reading, learning new skills and exploring hobbies) fun. Reluctant learners will consider those activities boring. They might avoid opportunities to learn – and this can have a critical impact on their happiness.

Love of learning, meaning the mastery of new skills and knowledge, whether self-directed or formal, is closely associated with contentment, motivation and a sense of accomplishment that psychologists refer to as “well being.” Lifelong learners typically experience greater well being than reluctant learners, which in turn leads to objective outcomes such as better mental health, longevity, productivity, pro-social behavior such as volunteering and a lower risk of anxiety and depression. Learners enhance the odds of success and survival. Clearly this has ramifications for their life outcomes.

#4: Choices

Who you are today is the result of all the choices you’ve made in your life. From exercising three times a week to which brand of toothpaste you buy, from taking an accelerated class at school to attending a job interview, from putting a dollar in the homeless man’s pot to walking on by – your whole life is a series of decisions that impact your future. Choices are everywhere, and every single one of them has the potential to make a lasting impact on our lives.

To a degree, our choices are the product of our personalities. It makes sense that a risk-averse person would be suspicious of a choice that might put themselves or their loved ones in danger. But the obvious criticism is that personality theories are based on dichotomies. Are you Introverted or Extraverted? Sensing or Perceiving? It’s up to you to decide.

Choices, on the other hand, rarely fall into the simple pattern of either/or. They are infinite. That is why a person who has made one set of choices can experience life so very differently to the other 10 percent of the population with the same personality type.

Understanding your personality type can help you to justify why you’ve made the choices you’ve made. But it isn’t a blueprint for those choices. Being a Thinker does not mean that you cannot choose to be an empathetic and compassionate caregiver. Being a Perceiver does not mean that you cannot choose to manage a project in a structured, pre-determined way. Our personalities should never be excuses to limit our own decisions – at best, they should provide a schema for becoming the most developed versions of ourselves.

Final thoughts

Personality tests are illuminating and quite fun to do. They can help to establish your niche in this crazy, complex world and reveal how you compare to other people. They can also help you tap into a wealth of knowledge about the strengths and struggles that those around you are experiencing. This is what personality tests are designed to do.

But personality theories are also a self-fulfilling prophecy. Scoring your personality won’t tell you anything you didn’t already know. The tests are based on how you see yourself, and logically, how you see yourself is the sum weight of your values, your resilience, your choices, your learned skills and a dozen other variables that make you both the person you are, and the person you want to be. These, and not your personality type, are the things that make you memorable when you walk into a room.


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PERSONALITY-COMMUNITY-LIFE – The Last Lecture 09/02/2017


Randy Pausch, 47 tahun, seorang dosen ilmu komputer dari Universitas Mellon, United States meninggal akibat kanker pankreas yang dideritanya pada 2008 silam. Di akhir hidupnya ia menulis sebuah buku yang berjudul “The Last Lecture” (Pengajaran Terakhir) yang menjadi salah satu buku best-seller di tahun 2007.

Apa yang menjadi warisan yang ditinggalkannya?

Di dalam sebuah surat untuk istrinya, Jai, dan anak-anaknya, Dylan, Logan dan Chloe, ia menuliskan secara indah mengenai ‘panduan menuju kehidupan yang lebih baik’ untuk diikuti istri dan anaknya.


1. Jangan membandingkan hidup Anda dengan orang lain karena Anda tidak pernah tahu apa yang telah mereka lalui
2. Jangan berpikir negatif akan hal-hal yang berada diluar kendali Anda, melainkan salurkan energi Anda menuju kehidupan yang dijalani saat ini, secara positif
3. Jangan bekerja terlalu keras, jangan lewati batasan Anda
4. Jangan memaksa diri Anda untuk selalu perfect, tidak ada satu orang pun yang sempurna
5. Jangan membuang waktu Anda yang berharga untuk gosip
6. Bermimpilah saat anda bangun (bukan saat tertidur)
7. Iri hati membuang-buang waktu, Anda sudah memiliki semua kebutuhan Anda
8. Lupakan masa lalu. Jangan mengungkit kesalahan pasangan Anda di masa lalu. Hal itu akan merusak kebahagiaan Anda saat ini
9. Hidup terlalu singkat untuk membenci siapapun itu. Jangan membenci
10. Berdamailah dengan masa lalu Anda agar hal tersebut tidak menganggu masa ini
11. Tidak ada seorang pun yang bertanggung jawab atas kebahagiaan Anda kecuali Anda
12. Sadari bahwa hidup adalah sekolah, dan Anda berada di sini sebagai pelajar. Masalah adalah bagian daripada kurikulum yang datang dan pergi seperti kelas aljabar (matematika) tetapi, pelajaran yang Anda dapat bertahan seumur hidup
13. Senyumlah dan tertawalah
14. Anda tidak dapat selalu menang dalam perbedaan pendapat. Belajarlah menerima kekalahan
15. Hubungi keluarga Anda sesering mungkin
16. Setiap hari berikan sesuatu yang baik kepada orang lain
17. Ampuni setiap orang untuk segala hal
18. Habiskan waktu dengan orang-orang di atas umur 70 dan di bawah 6 tahun
19. Coba untuk membuat paling sedikit 3 orang tersenyum setiap hari
20. Apa yang orang lain pikirkan tentang Anda bukanlah urusan Anda
21. Pekerjaan Anda tidak akan menjaga Anda di saat Anda sakit, tetapi keluarga dan teman Anda. Tetaplah berhubungan baik
22. Jadikan Tuhan sebagai yang pertama dalam setiap pikiran, perkataan, dan perbuatan Anda
23. Tuhan menyembuhkan segala sesuatu
24. Lakukan hal yang benar
25. Sebaik/ seburuk apapun sebuah situasi, hal tersebut akan berubah
26. Tidak peduli bagaimana perasaan Anda, bangun, berpakaian, dan keluarlah!
27. Yang terbaik belumlah tiba
28. Buang segala sesuatu yang tidak berguna, tidak indah, atau mendukakan
29. Ketika Anda bangun di pagi hari, berterima kasihlah pada Tuhan untuk itu
30. Jika Anda mengenal Tuhan, Anda akan selalu bersukacita. So, be happy

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