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10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman 09/03/2017

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Source: https://www.powerofpositivity.com/10-reasons-men-cant-handle-strong-woman/
 
 
I really like this post by the power of positivity, I red it yesterday. So I want to share it and keep it in my blog as a keepsake to read later on. I think I am a strong woman, even though I’m not sure how strong. I have overcome many challenges in my life and depend on no one but myself. And yes, that’s right, I am single. Sometimes I do feel that many guys are afraid of me, or think I am hard to approach. But no, I didn’t blame them and I didn’t blame myself. After all, I know that what’s not meant to be is not meant to be. They have every reasons but I’m not going to change just to please people. I am who I am. And if people love me, they should love me for who I am, in both strengths and flaws.
 
 

10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman

 
 

 
 
What exactly makes a strong woman? Her struggles, sacrifices, and selflessness. A strong woman has endured pain, overcome heart-wrenching experiences, and has allowed herself to be led by forgiveness. A strong woman has swam in deep and treacherous waters and held her breath as much as possible. This type of woman is self-sufficient, independent, loving, and has no fears of showing her vulnerability. The strong woman knows that one moment you are the teacher, and the next you might be the student. So, how does a woman like this keep a man?
 

Here are 10 reasons why most men can’t handle a strong woman:

 

1. A strong woman doesn’t need a man to fight for her.

 
A man needs to feel wanted. He needs to know that he is battling for the eternal love and admiration of his woman. A strong woman will show you that she loves her man, but she’s also independent and can manage on her own. The strong woman will fight for both of you, but she doesn’t need a man to fight her battles. If they have a problem, they deal with it. They don’t sit and wait, as victims, for a man to find the solution. Some men can’t handle this strength. If you choose to remain with this type of woman, be willing to walk beside her, not in front of her while pulling her to where you think she should be.
 

2. A strong woman knows what she wants.

 
Strong women know what they want, how to attain it, and remember all that they had to endure to get whatever they have. A woman like this knows what she wants. If she likes a man, she will go after him. She will not wait for the man to make the first move. Strong women have tenacious personalities that can be extremely intimidating for some men. They aren’t submissive. They love wholeheartedly and also can continue exploring the world, with a man or not. It takes a self-confident man to allow this type of personality to take charge.
 

3. A strong woman will require honesty and vulnerability.

 
Men have a hard time opening up to difficult questions. Strong women dive right into the depth of hurt, traumas, and life-changing experiences. They require a man who can be honest and vulnerable, because they have endured so much in their lives. They need to know that their mate can be available to navigate the ocean of uncertainties and travel the edges of madness. Strong women don’t fear the past. They excavate and search for those things that make us human. The strong woman will always find a strong man to stand tall with her in the face of diversity. Men tend to avoid vulnerability because they feel weak.
 

4. A strong woman is not intimidated by intimacy.

 
The strong woman will challenge a man in the most intimate of ways. She will require intimacy in all forms, from conversation to making love. She will hold nothing back. Because a strong woman is comfortable with her femininity, she will expect her man to also be open to all aspects of intimacy. She requires passion, desire and feel like she’s the one.
 

5. A strong woman can see right through lies.

 
Strong women are honest and expect complete trust in a relationship. She can sense lies in an instant, so don’t try to sugarcoat a white lie. Don’t give her bogus explanations. She has the ability to be a human lie detector. Being in a relationship with a strong woman requires that there is no holding back. She will never tolerate a sense of falseness and selfishness. If you can’t be with her completely, she will have no problem discarding you.
 

6. A strong woman requires integrity and consistency.

 
Women who have inner strength cannot tolerate irregularity or indecisive personalities. They want to know that the man they love has integrity, respect, and is a man of his word. If they start to feel that their man is pulling away, they will react accordingly and have no problem letting him go if they feel they are being played. They want to feel like they are loved unconditionally. If they feel disrespected, they will have no issues setting that on track. The worst thing you can do to a strong woman is make her feel weak.
 

7. A strong woman is intense.

 
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A strong woman has endured extraordinary challenges and obstacles in her life. She has had to be extremely powerful. She knows she can endure anything else in her path, so this kind of intensity is often times difficult for a man to understand. It’s intimidating because of all the emotions and thoughts that come with this type of persona. She is willing to share her scars, and expects you to do the same. There are no secrets in her world.
 

8. A strong woman will not wait for you.

 
This type of woman will follow you to the depth of hell if she knows you are committed to her. However, the moment you start to pull back, she will let you go. She will not wait for a man to decide if he wants her or someone better. Strong women don’t play little girly games. You are either in, or you are out. They will get hurt, lick their own wounds, and get back up ready to conquer whatever is next.
 

9. A strong woman will love you unconditionally.

 
The love from a strong woman is faithful. Just like mothers with their children, the strong woman will nurture and love her man fiercely. When she feels that love in return, she will do anything she can to make him feel loved. She will support him, help him, and fight for him to get what he deserves. Some men can’t handle this kind of unconditional love. They get frightened by the intensity and depth of giving. Many times it is in this stage that men flee from a strong woman. And, just as deeply as she loved you, she will also let you go. She knows her worth.
 

10. A strong woman will show you who you are.

 
It’s hard to accept the things we don’t like about ourselves when someone points them out. But, a strong woman will mirror those parts in her man that need addressing. She will be there to help show you how amazing and powerful you are. She will stand by you and show you worth, acceptance, and confidence. Some men cannot handle the emotional chaos that comes up with this projection. Strong woman will find strong men. The weak ones won’t make it past the first few dates.
 
They don’t know what to do with the honesty, strength, intelligence and independence. A strong man, most likely, was raised by a strong woman and will either deal with the dark night of the soul or leave. Strong women have no time to play games. So, if you can handle the intensity, love, honesty, and conversations, you might just be that strong man who can complement this type of woman.
 
 
Barry Paul Price writes, “Dating a strong woman is not something every guy can handle. He has to be confident in himself as a person, and as a man. Men must feel capable of meeting a woman’s needs. Traditionally, we did that providing financial security and physical protection. More recently, as women have expressed themselves with more independence and toughness, men aren’t sure how or when they’re needed by their woman. He ends up feeling unsure of his value and significance in the relationship. Many women tell me their man’s emotional support is just as important as financial and physical contributions. Unfortunately, men are not used to identifying masculinity with giving emotional support.”
 
 

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Happy Women’s Day! 08/03/2017

Filed under: Opinions — hifni1985 @ 9:58 pm
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Nowadays, women have experienced better situations compared to the past.

Years ago, woman was denied her right to choose a spouse and have to agree on arranged marriage made by her parents. But now woman has freedom to choose and even to an arranged marriage, woman is asked for consent.

Women were not allowed education in previous era, but now they can enjoy education equally.

People used to say to women, what’s the use of pursuing high education, because eventually you will end up in the kitchen.

Although some people are still stuck in such belief but some already have open mind.

Many women have pursued higher education ignoring some people surrounding who sneered upon them.

Others made remarks saying women shouldn’t pursue higher education or better career in case they lose men’s interest as men tend to dislike women with education or career higher than them.

But cheers to the women who choose not to be bounded by that words and keep trying to reach their dreams.

Some women have jobs, help pay the bills, and still do household cores alone. Kudos to all those superwomen. But so glad now some good men have common sense that household cores should be done together between men and women.

Woman used to be told not to voice opinion with man in the household but now it is custom to share opinions together and become each others’ partner in discussion.

Rules that bound women are made by society and cultures, but nonetheless those rules are made by human. So such rules are not something definite because as human changes, the rule changes as well.

Hopefully, rules that disregard women’s values are continue to be erased. May women grow confidence and become happier as their values in the society grow higher each and every day.

Happy Women’s Day!
 
 

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Don’t Judge and Generalize! 07/03/2017

Filed under: Opinions — hifni1985 @ 2:44 am
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One of the things I dislike is when the society judge the quality of something greater by the value of something small.

For example, when a muslim does a crime, people say how could a muslim do that or even worse, judging Islam as the culprit behind his action or generalize that all muslims are subject of such crime.

While it is merely the fault of the person who could not control his behaviour, or does not apply what the religion teach him, or misinterpret things by his own accord.

Isn’t that the same as if you blame God for things done by humans?
I think it is inappropriate because humans themselves will face the consequences of his actions in the afterlife with Allah The Justice as The Judge.

That’s why don’t judge the book by its cover and don’t judge a person by his attributes.

Remember that each human has his own demon.
We are born good.
But we don’t stay good if we don’t work for it.
And people can change.
People don’t stay good or bad forever.

 

 

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Tipe pekerjaan yang cocok denganku 06/03/2017

Filed under: Personality — hifni1985 @ 5:59 am
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Sumber : https://www.karir.com/interest-test

 
 
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Hasil Strength Typology Ku 05/03/2017

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How I Became Independent 04/03/2017

Filed under: About Me — hifni1985 @ 12:09 am
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I am not independent by choice.
Fate led me to be independent.
But it’s true that originally, I am a person who has a hard time asking for help so I’d rather do everything by myself first.
But back then, I used to have my mom who always help me go strong.
She gave me strength to go through a lot of things.
She was also the one I can always rely on.
But then, God had another plan for us to separate.
My mom passed away…

At that time, it seemed like the whole world was crashing down on me.
And soon after I got to know how scary the world is.
Since my mom who used to protect me was no longer beside me.
I had no one to rely on, but I kept carrying on.
I greeted my teeth and swore to myself that I won’t ask for help from those, the families who kept their hands in their pockets instead of reaching out of hands for me to hold.
So I kept that promise and along the way I became an independent woman.

Now, I have all the benefits from being independent.
Nobody in the family can order me on what or what not to do.
They have no say in the path I choose for myself.
Therefore I no longer hate them.
Because I realize that it is partly thanks to them, I get to live how I want.

Being Independent is a bliss.
 
 

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God is The One 03/03/2017

Filed under: Reflections — hifni1985 @ 11:44 pm
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After my mom passed away, God is the only one I count on.

I realize God is the one who loves me the most.

My fear, my worry, my feelings, God knows everything.

God’s blessing are enormous that I lose count.

I am always grateful to God for everything.

As weak as a human, I am often strayed from what I should do.

My gratefulness sometimes isn’t shaped well.

Taken God’s Love and Mercy for granted, I often forget the way.

But I always know that,

My life is for God to take.

All my belongings are gifts from God.

I came from nothing and shall return to nothing.

God’s rage is what I fear the most.

I am always thankful for God’s guidance and reminds.

I am thankful for this life.

 

 

 
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