Sorry! No Last Name


 

I’m glad that Facebook now has allowed empty last name in their account setting. That’s why, I officially write my name just as it is.

Not all country has the same citizens’ name regulations.
In Indonesia, birth name can be one word only or as many words as they want and their father’s name is not necessarily included in their birth name. It can be included by choice. This makes it hard to define Indonesian name into standard name form like:
First Name, Last Name or
First Name, Middle Name, Last Name

Which in other form, it is stated:

Birth Name, Family Name or

Forename, Middle Name, Surname

As my name is only consist of one word, so whenever I fill any of such form, I usually put my name twice or thrice; or make it empty if it is allowed. Though some people will find it weird.

There was some instances when I was abroad, the staff at the airport is confused by my name and the ticket was printed with the same name twice. Then I explained that my name is only consist of one word. Another encounter regarding this name issue also happened with a bank customer service and an immigration officer at the border of UK. They accepted my explanation but it was just weird for them.

I then thought to myself that I would name my children (if I ever have them) with two or three words so they wouldn’t encounter such confusions.

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Panduan Menulis Opini Oleh Tasmilah


 

Sabtu, 17 Februari 2018 lalu Pukul 16::00-18:00 WIB, Saya mengikuti seminar WhatsApp Group (WAG) dimana saya tergabung, dengan tema “Produktif Membunyikan Data Melalui Opini” yang disampaikan oleh Mbak Tasmilah, SST. Sekilas tentang Mbak Tasmilah seperti tercantum pada gambar adalah bahwa Mbak Tasmilah itu seorang fungsional statistisi di BPS Kota Serang, ibu dari 5 anak, dan penulis 69 opini di 14 media selama 2 tahun terakhir. Suatu pencapaian yang hebat, bukan? Namun, Saya kenal Mbak Tasmilah bukan baru di seminar ini. Dulu sewaktu saya masih kuliah di almamater saya, saya pernah satu kos dengan Mbak Tasmilah di kos-an saya yang kedua, lebih kurang selama empat bulan sampai saya memutuskan untuk pindah ke kos-an lain. Di benak saya masih teringat masa-masa waktu kami di kos dulu dan tentunya kita tidak akan pernah menduga akan bertemu kembali di grup Perempuan BPS Menulis. Mendengar prestasi Mbak Tasmilah, saya merasa takjub, bukan karena jumlah opini yang dihasilkan Mbak Tasmilah atau bahwa Mbak Tasmilah berhasil menembus Kompas yang terkenal selektif memilih opini, tetapi lebih pada betapa Mbak Tasmilah berhasil menemukan cara positif untuk mengatasi kejenuhan rutinitas kantor, membagi waktu di tengah kesibukan pekerjaan dan rumah tangga, serta menaklukkan diri sendiri akan rasa malas, keengganan, demi meraih kemajuan diri sendiri.  Saya yakin dari sosok seperti Mbak Tasmilah inilah, kita perlu belajar bagaimana cara menulis Opini, yang merupakan medium positif bagi perkembangan diri Mbak Tasmilah.

Menurut Mbak Tasmilah, dalam menulis opini, ada tahapan-tahapan sebagai berikut:
A. Proses Menulis Opini
1. Menentukan tema yang aktual.
2. Menentukan sudut pandang (angle) atau perspektif.
3. Mencari dan menggunakan referensi/rujukan, pendapat para ahli.
4. Memulai menulis, memetakan dan mengidentifikasi masalah, membahas permasalahan yang sudah diidentifikasi , sampai membuat konklusi.

B. Menentukan tema Aktual dapat dilakukan dengan cara:
1. Amati berita headline koran-koran utama yang memiliki reputasi baik setiap hari selama 4 hari.
2. Amati berita-berita di TV selama seminggu.
3. Baca situs-situs berita mainstream, seperti kompas.com, detik.com, vivanews.com, dll.
4. Ikuti berita yang dimuat berulang selama 3-4 hari.

C. Struktur Tulisan Opini
1. Judul
2. Pendahuluan
3. Pembahasan
4. Kesimpulan

atau

1. Judul : Singkat, padat, jelas (3-5 kata)
2. Pembuka (lead) : merupakan kalimat atau paragraf pembuka yang mengajak, menggoda, mengusik pembaca agar terus membaca sampai tuntas.
3. Penjelas (Batang Tubuh)
4. Penutup (ending)

D. Menyusun Alinea
1. Satu alinea biasa mengandung satu pokok pikiran
2. Uraikan inti masalah dengan singkat (3-5 kalimat)
3. Sifatnya, apakah menanggapi opini orang lain atau mengajukan opini tersendiri?
4. Uraikan pokok pikiran utama (main idea) menjadi beberapa pokok pikiran penunjang/turunan
5. Hubungkan satu alinea dengan alinea selanjutnya dengan jembatan pikiran (bridging) yang kuat
6. Hubungan antar alinea bisa bersifat: kronologis (waktu), spasiologis (ruang), dan kausalitas (sebab-akibat)

E. Membuat dan Edit Draft
1. Selesaikan draf, apapun bentuknya, tulis aja apa yang ada di kepala sampai bener-bener mentok.
2. Endapkan tulisan awal selama beberapa waktu, cari inspirasi/kesibukan, perhatikan deadline.
3. Tinjau ulang draft awal dan periksa dari segi substansi, struktur argumentai, atau gaya penulisannya.
4. Bisa meminta pendapat atau masukan dari teman sebelum dikirim ke redaksi. Note: Kalo Mbak Tasmilah sering meminta bantuan suaminya untuk membaca opini sebelum dikirim.

F. Pentingnya Data
1. Data penting untuk memperkuat pendapat yang diajukan, apalagi BPS merupakan gudangnya data. Penulis dari BPS diuntungkan dengan ini. Karena tiap bulan BPS selalu merilis data, ini bisa menjadi ide untuk menulis tiap bulan.
2. Referensi penting untuk menunjukkan bahwa semua pendapat yang sama/berbeda sudah dipertimbangkan.

G. Buatlah Profil menarik
1. Biodata yang memuat pendidikan dan pekerjaan kita, ini untuk menunjukkan kompetensi kita sebagai penulis. Contoh: Tasmilah. ASN di BPS, Pendidikan DIV statistik Ekonomi. Kalau perlu tulis juga penulis opini di Kompas, Suara Pembaruan, Suara Merdeka, Radar Banten, dst.
2. Alamat yang mudah dihubungi, scan ktp, foto, dan norek npwp (jika koran nasional).

H. Mengirim Ke Redaksi

 

Demikianlah ulasan singkat mengenai hal-hal yang disampaikan dalam seminar WAG bersama Mbak Tasmilah. Bagi siapa saja yang berniat untuk menulis Opini, semoga sharing ini bisa bermanfaat. Sarana untuk mengembangkan diri bisa apa saja. Ada yang berbisnis, memasak, membuat kerajinan tangan, melukis, bermusik, dsb yang tentunya sesuai dengan minat tiap orang yang bisa berbeda-beda. Namun, jangan pernah berhenti untuk mengembangkan diri. Karena dengan terus mengembangkan dirilah kita bisa lebih menghargai hidup ini. Pesan ini tentunya saya arahkan pada diri saya sendiri yang seringkali masih lupa akan hal tersebut.

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To Love


 

I have often talked about love, the concept and all that stuffs. I have also imagined so many times how it will be when I am in love. Although my actual experience of love is zero as I have never been in relationship before, but I believe I know a thing or two about love as I am a keen observer. I read, hear, watch stories about people in love and associate with their feelings as if I went through their lives already. Sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? But it’s true.

As much as dreamy person I am, I am also a realist. I don’t really imagine love without flaw like a fairy tale. I know love needs efforts, from both sides involved. There isn’t any single person without flaw in this world, if that’s what you would call it, but I’d rather say it weakness. Every human has weaknesses and strength. Even the most perfect person you could ever recognize has his weakness, you just haven’t seen it yet, or blind yourself from seeing it. This is where love plays the part. Love can make you blind to see the weakness of someone you love. Or perhaps, rather to say, you see the weakness, you know it, but you just don’t care about it. That weakness is something you could tolerate. You just focus to see the good sides of the one you love. So in that sense, I believe there is this compatibility between two people meant to be in love.

We hear a lot about this love compatibility. If you are compatible with someone, you won’t consider that person’ weakness as something detrimental that could turn off your interest. So people could see it as something big and questioning why do you even love this person. But to you, because you love him/her, it doesn’t matter to you. That’s why I always think you should be true to yourself and be honest with your partner so he/she could see the real you and whether this love you both have for each other are meant to be.

When you are open with each other, you see each other’s scars of the past, you could sense whether you are meant for each other by how much acceptance you receive. Someone who is not willing to see your scars won’t be someone destined to love you so just let him/her run away. On the contrary, someone who is destined to love you will embrace you for who you are, scarred or anything. The burden you carry is the burden he/she is willing to share with you as much as his/her burden is something you could lighten. So one concept of love is to share the burden of each other and to become each other’s strength to withstand it all.

So here’s to Love!
May we all find someone to love.

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I Am Me


 

I am always myself. I never once think I am special or different or anything. I believe that everyone has their own color which is special to themselves. No matter how much similarities you share with another, there will always be more things different. That nature in itself made every person is unique in their own.

I don’t live a hermit life. I socialize to some extent. In my time of socialization, I realize there is some distinct border, unseen, but you could sense that limit your interaction with some others. I sometimes sense it coming from people putting up their guards on me. Mostly because they think I am someone difficult to approach. I don’t blame them and often think it is just me.

I have mentioned in my other post before that there was a time where I blame myself too much when I can’t get along with people or when I sense that border coming from people directed to me while they are easily connecting with some others. I started to think what’s wrong with me and so many questions of why popped up in my head.

Although I had that kind of self-blaming mode in me, I still stay true to myself. I just slowly drifted away from them, those who didn’t want me in their circle. I actually know what they want, all the questions popping in my head, I have multiple answers to them. But the thing is I don’t want to do any of those ways just to make me fit into someone’s circle. I choose to be genuine.

All the long while, I no longer feel there is a need for self-blame. As I found that people are no different than pieces of puzzle. The ones with the right form will fit you a.k.a. get along with you. I have found several people where our puzzles match with each other. Although not so many, I’m still quite satisfied. They are the people who accept me for who I am, not even trying to change me. Just like I never try to change other people. I am just thankful for their presence in my life.

I am just glad that even though along the way it has cost me many people, I stay true to myself. I always think it’s better to lose others than to lose myself trying to fit in. When I come to accept myself, I see my own value and appreciate what I see in me. In other words, instead of winning others, I choose to win myself and it has made my life content and peaceful.

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Along With The Gods: The Two Worlds – Korean Movie 2017 [Eng Sub]


 

The first time I knew about this movie is January 31st. Then I searched it on the cinema in my city in case it is still showing. I got my hope high to see it is still showing in other city but unfortunately the cinemas in my city didn’t air the movie for long. When I emailed them about it, they said they could organized the screening if I have large groups to fill the theater. How can I? I just wanted to watch this movie alone. So I could only wish for some websites to upload this movie to watch at home.

My wish was granted. On February 14th, I didn’t need to wait for long, a website has uploaded the movie. I watched the movie in the morning to noon of February 15th. I really wanted to watch this movie, Why? First, it’s because the genre, Fantasy, Action, Drama. I red the reviews on several websites and it mentioned about the stunning CG effects and a strong story. These are all we could need for a movie with that genres. Not to mention the strong casts have been known for their strong acting performances. I also read that this movie surpassed 10 Million viewers in South Korea alone in short amount of time. But although that’s great as a premise, I don’t really consider box office record as something that assure the quality of a movie.

So what about this movie that attracts so many viewers?

First, the story.

Story of the death of an ordinary fireman named Ja-hong (Cha Tae-hyun). Gang-rim (Ha Jung-woo), the head grim reaper, Haewonmaek (Ju Ji-hoon), and Dukchoon (Kim Hyang-gi) are assigned as public defenders to escort Ja-hong in the afterlife and represent him in 7 trials in 49 days to find out how Ja-hong lived his life and where he ought to spend the rest of eternity, heaven, hell, or granted for reincarnation.

The story is based on a webtoon by Joo Ho-min, Along With the Gods.

I was curious about the concept of 49 days after death in Korea. The first time I heard about it was through the drama 49 Days. And along the way, I watched several dramas nudged on the topic of the afterworld in Korean myth. But none really based the whole story in the afterworld. This is another reason I was so looking forward to this movie.

Before discussing the movie further, just watch the movie first here

I wanted to dwell further on the story of the movie. But because it is a recent movie which is first released in South Korea in December 20th, 2017, it’s not even two months old. So surely there are many who haven’t watched. I think I will stop here first. Then I will add more about the movie in a few days or weeks as to not spoil the story for those who haven’t watched.

Happy watching!

Now it’s time to discuss the movie.

It’s been a little over a month since I posted this and it gained over 1800 views. It might not seem plenty but for a blog like mine which rarely get views over a hundred it was quite much. Now I assume people have already watched this movie, I want to start reviewing it.

The concept of the afterworld is what attracting me to the movie so I start with that. In Korea, people believe in the concept of reincarnation, that if you live good live you will get the chance to reincarnate. This movie also mention about 7 types of hell and heaven. It’s quite similar in Islam there is a concept of 7 level of heaven and 7 level of hell. But there is never such thing as reincarnation, because the afterworld is described as our last home for eternity. While the world is actually just a test where our live spent there is short. The 7 types of hell or heaven in Korean myth have separate trials while in Islam, the trial is just one and it’s like another phase before decision on which level of hell or heaven someone is to enter based on their life’s deeds.

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Don’t Generalize As Excuse!


 

Don’t generalize as excuse!
Some people generalize some negative actions saying everyone behave the same.
I beg to differ.
You’re just excusing your behavior and framing others.

One example is the saying that every men is bound to be attracted to several women. So some men use this statement to justify their actions of flirting with many different women. Is that true? So what about men who stayed loyal to their significant other. Are you saying they are not men? Truth is those flirty men are just not man enough to admit they are jerks.
Don’t be a coward and admit you’re wrong when you’re wrong.

Can’t you see there are couples out there that even when 10 years, 20, or 50 years have passed since they were together are still going strong and gazing at each other full of love. You are disrespecting such true love with your ill behavior.

Another example is doing a favor to someone just because of money or benefit they got to offer. By saying everyone else do the same, they’re eliminating the fact that what they’re doing is wrong. Then blaming those who couldn’t offer any benefit that it’s their fate to get the unjust treatment for not being born with power or wealth. Isn’t that ridiculous? Many don’t make wrong become right.
Just like Evil doesn’t make Kindness disappear.

You can lie to others but what about your conscience? Or perhaps your conscience is dead? Well, when you die, you just have to go to the after world to make your statement that what you’re doing is right. Then let’s see what will be the result of your trial.

Although the world is full of injustice, not everyone behaves immoral. Some people are trying hard in their lives, abiding the rules, staying good, despite the temptations. It’s not fair to them. So generalizing bad behavior as something done by many is just failed excuse. It’s still wrong and never will be right. Stop fooling yourself!

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Match or Not Match, That is The Answer


 

Match or not match

After series of experience, I realize you don’t need to blame yourself or think you’re not good enough when you found someone who doesn’t match with you.

When A doesn’t match with B, while both of them are friends with C separately, Why A and B don’t match? Who’s fault is that? Should you blame A or B? Well, there’s no need to. No one is to blame. We are not made for this world to match everyone anyway.

Let’s see this from case to case.
A.1. Match
You brought just little souvernir from your trip, she said “oh you don’t need to,” she appreciated and showed gratitute.
A.2. Not match
She might just say “what, it’s just this?” while ignoring the souvenir. Your gesture is left unappreciated even when you have thought of her. So what to do, you’re feeling hurt, aren’t you? Sure. But keep it short. You just don’t match her. Next time? Just don’t bother buying her souvenir ever again.

B.1. Match
The fact you can’t cook won’t matter. She might just say: “I’d prefer to cook alone. You could just help me with the dishes.” So both are mutually helping each other.
B.2. Not match
Even when you have gone out of your way to cook something for her and serve the meal to her, she will say “oh, I don’t like this” she will nitpick your cooking and “not at all” feel grateful for your kind gesture. Which will remind you, why wouldn’t she cook for herself instead? So next time, don’t bother cooking for her ever again. Whether she wants to eat or not is not your concern.

C
When you match with someone, seeing your messy house will make her say “ah, it could happen, you might be too busy and tired to start cleaning.” Understanding you is the first thing she would do instead of blaming and nitpicking.

Several people come and go in your lives but only some are destined to stay. The ones who stay are the ones who match with you. The ones who leave just serve as lessons for you.
So don’t feel discourage. For people who love you, just the way you are is all they need. For people who don’t love you, your best will never be good enough.

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