Don’t Generalize As Excuse!


 

Don’t generalize as excuse!
Some people generalize some negative actions saying everyone behave the same.
I beg to differ.
You’re just excusing your behavior and framing others.

One example is the saying that every men is bound to be attracted to several women. So some men use this statement to justify their actions of flirting with many different women. Is that true? So what about men who stayed loyal to their significant other. Are you saying they are not men? Truth is those flirty men are just not man enough to admit they are jerks.
Don’t be a coward and admit you’re wrong when you’re wrong.

Can’t you see there are couples out there that even when 10 years, 20, or 50 years have passed since they were together are still going strong and gazing at each other full of love. You are disrespecting such true love with your ill behavior.

Another example is doing a favor to someone just because of money or benefit they got to offer. By saying everyone else do the same, they’re eliminating the fact that what they’re doing is wrong. Then blaming those who couldn’t offer any benefit that it’s their fate to get the unjust treatment for not being born with power or wealth. Isn’t that ridiculous? Many don’t make wrong become right.
Just like Evil doesn’t make Kindness disappear.

You can lie to others but what about your conscience? Or perhaps your conscience is dead? Well, when you die, you just have to go to the after world to make your statement that what you’re doing is right. Then let’s see what will be the result of your trial.

Although the world is full of injustice, not everyone behaves immoral. Some people are trying hard in their lives, abiding the rules, staying good, despite the temptations. It’s not fair to them. So generalizing bad behavior as something done by many is just failed excuse. It’s still wrong and never will be right. Stop fooling yourself!

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Match or Not Match, That is The Answer


 

Match or not match

After series of experience, I realize you don’t need to blame yourself or think you’re not good enough when you found someone who doesn’t match with you.

When A doesn’t match with B, while both of them are friends with C separately, Why A and B don’t match? Who’s fault is that? Should you blame A or B? Well, there’s no need to. No one is to blame. We are not made for this world to match everyone anyway.

Let’s see this from case to case.
A.1. Match
You brought just little souvernir from your trip, she said “oh you don’t need to,” she appreciated and showed gratitute.
A.2. Not match
She might just say “what, it’s just this?” while ignoring the souvenir. Your gesture is left unappreciated even when you have thought of her. So what to do, you’re feeling hurt, aren’t you? Sure. But keep it short. You just don’t match her. Next time? Just don’t bother buying her souvenir ever again.

B.1. Match
The fact you can’t cook won’t matter. She might just say: “I’d prefer to cook alone. You could just help me with the dishes.” So both are mutually helping each other.
B.2. Not match
Even when you have gone out of your way to cook something for her and serve the meal to her, she will say “oh, I don’t like this” she will nitpick your cooking and “not at all” feel grateful for your kind gesture. Which will remind you, why wouldn’t she cook for herself instead? So next time, don’t bother cooking for her ever again. Whether she wants to eat or not is not your concern.

C
When you match with someone, seeing your messy house will make her say “ah, it could happen, you might be too busy and tired to start cleaning.” Understanding you is the first thing she would do instead of blaming and nitpicking.

Several people come and go in your lives but only some are destined to stay. The ones who stay are the ones who match with you. The ones who leave just serve as lessons for you.
So don’t feel discourage. For people who love you, just the way you are is all they need. For people who don’t love you, your best will never be good enough.

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I’m not angry, just upset!


 

Upset vs Angry

Upset is different in meaning from angry. If you look through their meanings in the dictionary, you will find that
Angry contains the strong feelings of hostility and displeasure.
While
Upset contains the emotions of disappointment, worry, unhappiness, sadness.

Upset is a more light feeling that we often feel in our daily interaction with people. Whilst anger is something more bubbling inside us and sometimes explode when we can’t contain it. So angry is not an emotion we often experience.

Between those two feelings, let me tell you more about my experience of being angry.

Like my mom, I used to be someone who never got angry. Even when the ordeal is not sided with me or someone do me wrong, I would be sad, but not angry.
A close friend of mine once asked me of something that made her angry on why I wasn’t angry. On different occasion, another friend said the same remark saying if that occasion happened to her, She would get angry and why didn’t I. At both time I honestly wasn’t feeling angry and just thought there was no need to get angry about it. So it went and it went.

Being angry is not something I can be proud about. Often time I consider I would be a person to regret it much if I get angry so I don’t get angry often. Because I don’t get angry often, I still remember the times when I get angry, Once in high school, Twice in university, Four times in the first five years of working, Once during my master study, and Another four times after I started working again. So I guess it’s Twelve in total. But seriously, in each of those twelve occasions it doesn’t feel good to be angry. So I always hope there will be no further need to get angry about.

As someone who is more in the quiet side, I don’t usually blow up when I’m angry. I often hold the anger feeling inside first, but when I could no longer hold it in then it shows. Among the twelve occasions I remember getting angry, I showed my anger on 8 of them. The other four, I managed to hold them in somehow. I honestly don’t know which one is better, to hold in or let the feeling show.

In Islam, it is advised not to get angry. There are even ways to be taken in order not to get angry. While in psychology, it is said getting angry is sometimes needed and repressing it is not good for your health. In my experience, I see sometimes getting angry is needed to let someone know that a certain action is intolerable so they would not do such action again to you. Although it should be avoided to let the anger control yourself that you could just end up hurting people to ease yourself instead of making your points taken. So maybe you could say that as a controlled anger.

But honestly, I would prefer we as humans just get along well and not hurting each other so there’s not even a need to get angry about. If we think before we speak, we consider other people first before we take action that could harm them, and everyone respect each other, wouldn’t our world be more beautiful?

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An Affair is A Challenge to God


 

Marriage is a sacred relationship between a man and a woman under God’s Blessing.
Sitting on the day of the marriage, a man take a woman as his wife under a promise that he will treat her well.
That he will become her protector. In Islam, the vow in marriage is classified as miitsaaqan ghaliizhaa or a great, serious, and powerful covenant. A promise of marriage, its editorial shows the strong promise just like the promise that Allah took from the prophets. So we can feel how serious the promise of marriage is.

In that note, having an affair means you’re challenging God. Breaking the promise you made in front of God.
Are you confident you could win? When you live in this world under God’s Blessings.

Everything we do, God Knows.
People who are having an affair act as if no one knows their misconduct. But they forget that everything they do, God Knows. The angels are witnessing and writing everything they do. They feel safe thinking that the spouses don’t know but what about God, do you feel safe from God Knowing?

God Knows Everything.
Even every hidden feeling we have, God is Aware.
When you started to have feelings for the other person, not your spouse, God already Knows. You should have asked forgiveness to God at that time and stopping yourself to get any further than that.

Why are you not afraid of God?
While everything of us belongs to God.
We live in this world, nothing actually belongs to us. Our breath could be gone in a second. Body, soul, wealth, health, are all blessings from God that God Could Take any second. So stop thinking and behaving as if you don’t know all this, or as if you could live forever.

Respect yourself, respect others.
The happiness and thrill you got from an affair is short-lived. You are disrespecting yourself, your spouse, your partner in crime/affair, even your children and other families. Everybody wants happiness but it is something that should be worked out between each other. Running away from issues won’t solve anything.

This life is short.
Do your best to fill it with meanings and good things. It won’t be long till we must leave life.
And To God we shall all return.
Where we will be asked on all things we did in the living world.

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Mengagungkan Allah SWT


 

Tiada satupun yang pantas diagung-agungkan melainkan Allah SWT.

Mengagungkan manusia pada akhirnya kecewa. Entah itu dikhianati, dilupakan, atau ditinggalkan (hidup ataupun mati).

Pernah dengar kan cerita orang yang sudah dibaikin malah menjahati?

Atau orang yang sudah pernah ditolong sama sekali ga ingat akan itu?

Tak ada yang kekal di dunia ini. Hubungan antar sesama manusia pun begitu.

Mengagungkan harta pada akhirnya pun celaka. Merasa tak pernah cukup, diperbudak oleh harta, masuk penjara karena korupsi, atau bersengketa demi harta.

Begitu pula halnya dengan tahta. Merasa was-was jabatannya direbut, atau sikut kiri sikut kanan demi mendapat jabatan, sogok uang tak kira-kira demi dapat posisi, untuk kemudian menderita post power syndrome saat jabatan tak lagi dikuasai.

Pada akhirnya, tak ada satupun di dunia ini yang pantas untuk dipuja-puja.

Kita semua akan kembali kepada Allah SWT tanpa membawa apapun.

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Oh, No! I Drink My Own Blood


 

On the night of February 1st, around after Isya’ Prayer time, one of my teeth bleed and couldn’t stop even after I gargle with water over and over. It’s about time to sleep. So I decided to sleep anyway. Literally, at that time I bleed and swallow my own blood.

In the morning, I browsed about drinking blood and some results showed the effect on health and even the interpretation of dreams. Apparently, so many different takes could be derived by just one keyword, drink my own blood.

One result I read is that in medical, drinking blood could lead to serious implication, as stated by MedicalDaily. This is due to blood contains iron and having too much iron in our system until toxic level could make someone end up suffering from liver disease and even heart failure.

Other interesting result is about the interpretation of blood as hardships or worries. Figuratively, I drink my own blood could mean that I cause my own hardship and worry. That is something that I acknowledge. Lately, I felt that I was too strict with works that I made things hard for myself. While actually there’s no need to be so perfectionist and I could just take it easy as not to cause a burden for myself. I had that tendency from way back, I thought I have changed it but it seems I haven’t. So when things become hard, it’s partly because I made it hard for myself. The other part is of course because the things themselves. I don’t want to exactly pinpoint the things that burden me because it means I have to talk about work-related stuffs that I don’t want to.

Back to the interesting interpretation of drinking own blood, it  made me realize what I should do in order to ease the burden. That I should reduce my intensity, to take it easy, to let it flow. I don’t need to care so much. Everything will run and even though the planning process has few obstacles along the way, things will keep running, and the result is not something I can assure with my own two hands anyway. So I should stop causing hardship and worry for myself.

I thought this event is something good for my learning process, which is something unexpected. How could we ever think to relate teeth problem with philosophy. It made me realize just like in medical perspective it’s not healthy for your body to drink blood, in philosophy it’s also not healthy for your mind to put stress on yourself or causing hardship and worry for yourself.

So Stop Drinking Your Own Blood!

Thank God the bleeding stopped in the morning which brought along a lesson to put a new view in life.

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The Valuable Me


 

I,
may not have a house,
a car,
or anything that’s valuable,
other than myself.
so I fought hard to protect myself.
against anyone,
who tried to take my value away from me.
Just like how people lock their house,
or lock their car,
I also lock myself.
Because with all my strength and weakness,
I am valuable.
Even when no one admit it,
I’m still valuable.
The science of loving myself means
to put the importance of myself above any materialistic things,
I don’t choose to chase after money
if I have to sacrifice myself over it, not worth it!
so when people wear branded items, I say “what’s that?”
when they follow the trend, I say “so what?”
I refuse to follow the flocks of feathers,
even if I have to fly solo
and I don’t need some recognition
some people recognize me, “what for?”
Only us can recognize ourselves.
By looking inside, not outside.
By our own value, not others’.
Be ourselves, with or without, anything.

Dream Job No. 1: A Librarian


 

The easiest job for me to do is a librarian.
I love to surround myself with books.
It is my dream to have my own three story private library.
Imagine having the library as your work place, with all those books without having the need to spend some money.
I would be excited to go to work every day.
I can read a lot, books with various topics while waiting for people who want to borrow books.

I love to organize books.
Back in high school, I organized the books in the school library many times even though no one asked me to. Seeing books line up according to their topics gave me a sense of relief.

I also love to put plastic on books to make them neat and there’s a sense of satisfaction I can feel to be able to protect the books.
Once I borrowed a book and I changed the old cover so it could look better.
Why did I bother when it was not even my book? I don’t know but I care.

I am also good with keeping the records, either manually or computerized.
Have trouble finding the books? I could help by finding it on the computer or I could easily show you where because I remember things well and I’m good with locations.

You want me to put the register numbers on the book side? No problem.
Being the type of person I am, you would probably find me with a ruler so I could put the numbers in the exact same position for each book. So the books will line up nicely in the book shelf with linear register numbers.

Those will be simple happiness that I get to have every day.
There’s no stress, no worry.

Is there a librarian who hates her job?
Why don’t you switch job with me? I’d be more than happy to do that.

 

 

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The Rulebreaker


 

I was strict,
They told me, you don’t need to be so strict.
That it’s okay to break some rules.

I broke some rules,
Then they said, why are you not following the rules?

So tell me,
Which rules are okay to be broken, which rules are not?

Why are some rules applied to some people, but not to some others?
Who decides so?

Please tell me.
Because I am so confused.
Is it true rules are made to be broken?
Why should there be rules in the first place?

Is it always like this when it’s rule made by human?
Easily break,
Easily falter,
Easily bent.

That’s why I love God’s rules,
Because the rules and consequences are clear.
Because the rules are the same for every humans.

 

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My Comprehensive Personality Profile


 

Sometimes I wonder how some personality profile could define me so close. I’ve done a lot of personality profiling through all means. Of course human’s characters are fluid, means they could change. But still, I am amazed every time I could nod and say “yes, yes, this is right.” This one result here is quite long, with similar things are explained several times in different ways. I’m just keeping this to myself as I think no one but me will ever read this until finish, LOL.

My Comprehensive Personality Profile

You have a feet-on-the-ground and eye-on-the-prize. You have a realistic, grounded approach to life that can be seen no matter how dreamy you are. You know how to do things, and to get things done. But you can naturally turn your back on things you deem too frivolous. You are very much concerned with things that are worthwhile–and that includes your own life. You want to do and be something worthwhile. You need to feel useful and effective in the real world in order to be satisfied with your life.

You like to pare things down, and take pleasure in the simple things in life. You can see into the future, and plan for it. You don’t mind taking things slowly, but you absolutely aim to get to the top of the mountain in life! You make your way steadily and sure-footedly; and your strength and singleness of purpose are admirable.

You can sometimes be rather lonely person, although you rarely let it show. You are often a little reserved–even standoffish. This is generally because you value all things practical, and you seldom wear your emotions on your sleeve. You are surely the most resourceful. To some, you come across as unimaginative, but you actually can be enormously creative when it comes to the material world. You are generally very capable person with a strong sense of tradition and responsibility.

You have mastered the art of making people laugh. Your sense of humor can be of the deadpan variety: you are generally excellent at keeping a straight face. Your humor can be bitingly sarcastic, too. You are not known for taking too many risks in life. You value the beaten track and things “tried and true”. But this is not to say you are stick-in-the-muds – you just simply value the hard work laid down by those who’ve been around before you. People turn to you for help when they need to really get things done. Because you have practical advice and you’ll help them organize and manage their life a little better. You are generally good with your “word”, dependable, and rather loyal person.

You are honest, reserved, circumspect, honorable and strong-willed. Quietly ambitious within the realms of the possible, you like and take on responsibility. You can work in the social domain.

Weaknesses: a sometimes bitter and mistrustful mind.

You need activity and a change of scenery often, or you feel restless. You take pride in your mental agility and your friendships. You are able to adapt quite easily to whatever environment you’re in. There is a strong need to communicate your knowledge to others and to learn. Your curiosity is endless. Take pride in your intellectual or communicative abilities without feeling the need to lord it over others or to always be “in the know”. You have a solid grasp of facts. You have a strong influence on your peers.

Social relationships are extremely important to you. You are generally charming with an easy-going manner. It is generally quite important to you that you are personally popular, to come across in a pleasant way, and to be liked and appreciated. Sometimes, vanity is part of the package. You do your best to seek peace and harmony. You are diplomatic and a veritable expert at smoothing over (and sometimes glossing over) problems. You are openhanded with others, tolerant and accepting. You have a fine eye for style and enjoy pleasing surroundings. You generally dress well and enjoy a certain amount of luxury. You are gracious, romantic, and sometimes romantically impulsive. You tend to rely on the power of attraction to bring people to you, rather than aggressively pursuing love interests. There is some vanity involved here–you are most attracted to people who express interest in you, or who respond well to your charms! You are not the type of person who overtly pursues people who appear to be indifferent to you. You are not competitive in the aggressive sense of the word, and you are not someone who loves a good chase. Instead, you work your charms and draw people to you. Your ability to attract others is very much tied up with your ego because you tend to be quite attractive.

You are enterprising and have powerful stores of energy that you can draw upon when needed. You respond to problems or challenges with a spirited and enthusiastic confidence that is admirable. You are naturally competitive, and this trait is generally well-received by others simply because it is unforced, unaffected, and sincere. You truly believe in fair play, and you seem to be in love with life. When you are expressing competitiveness and courage, it’s easy for others to smile and accept these traits as positive ones rather than being rubbed the wrong way. You have good physical vitality. Although competitive, you are not naturally combative. You may enjoy sports or games that are competitive, but not violent. Breaking the rules of a competitive game is particularly upsetting to you. You are more able than most to control your desires, aggressions, and instincts. You know how to be fair, and you expect others to be fair. As such, sneaky behaviors, uncontrolled impulses, violence, and rage are offensive to you.

There is an unmistakably dreamy, inspired, and sensitive side to you. A marked appreciation for music and the arts is present. A sensitive and spiritual dimension is in your personality. You are naturally compassionate. It is so completely natural for you to accept that there is more to the world than what is before your eyes, that you tend to presume everyone must be spiritually-inclined. Of course, you come to realize that this is not the case at some early point in your life. Your attraction to spirituality and metaphysical subjects is usually marked. These aspects favor writers, artists, and musicians. You are sensitive to those who are suffering, although you are not usually taken advantage of. You are humanitarian and may have a special connection with animals. You are not one to dominate others or assert yourself to the point of brashness. You have a fertile imagination, are full of inspiration, and very emotional – all qualities that you may use on the professional level.

You have much sexual vitality and passion. It is easy and natural for you to find a passion and pursue it, and to focus on a goal. You are not much scared of anything. You enjoy and embrace growth, especially of the psychological kind. You love a good mystery, and you are adept at solving it. You readily assign meaning to what others might consider “ordinary” events. You look for symbols, and read between the lines in most any situation. Your physical vitality is generally strong, and your body is usually able to heal quickly. You are not afraid to get your hands dirty, and you are usually quick to help others–not only with mundane tasks, but also on a spiritual or psychological level. Your insight is sharp and sometimes awe-inspiring. You are perceptive and not easily rattled or surprised in life. You are not a do-gooder nor are you a law-breaker. However, you are not afraid of the “dark side” of human nature, and you will bend the rules from time to time if you feel the need to do so. You take particular pleasure in growth and life’s lessons. You are not fond of superficiality, and are generally the first to spot pretense of any kind. You are passionate and can be intense. You have a hunger to experience more than just an “ordinary” life, and you can be quite ambitious. You are perfectionists, demanding much from yourself and reasonable amounts of effort and honesty from others.

It is easy and natural for you to be received well by others. There is a distinct air of authority and magnanimity surrounding you. The authority you project generally doesn’t offend others, generally because sincerity is sensed at the same time. Most people would describe you as natural, easy to like, and friendly.

You are not necessarily outgoing. But when you feel comfortable, you do like being the center of attention. That is, you like being in the “spotlight” in the comfort of your own homes and with family and friends. You enjoy entertaining others, and often take on the role of comic. You often feel a need to organize, and even control, your families and friends. You have an inner mission to set things right and generally like to oversee the goings-on in your little circle.

You want to create and entertain. You can be rather lazy at times and a little bossy too. But generally, though, you have a deep need to treat others fairly and justly. You require lots and lots of love and care in order to function well in the world. When you feel slighted, you can be dramatic in your emotional displays. When your pride has been hurt, you are given to big scenes and sulking. This rarely happens in public, however. You are far too concerned about your image to make splashy scenes outside the comfort of your own homes. In public, you prefer to take things in dignified ways. At home, however, you’re given to big displays of emotional drama. These scenes generally don’t last too long, however. You are often personally popular folk who are valued for your integrity and strong sense of justice. So generally, it is easy to reason with you and to make you fine again. Appealing to your well-developed sense of fairness usually works well.

You are brave and know how to take risks, have the courage of your convictions, are honest, imposing and sharp. You have a great sense of, and respect for, justice, organizational sense, selectivity in friends, but is not overly influenced by them. You have a taste for splendor.

Weaknesses: Changing and being numerous affections, emotionally demanding and proud, and brooding when attention is not forthcoming.

You have an emotional need for recognition, popularity, acknowledgement, and achievement. You can be quite charismatic. You are at your emotional best when you lead a structured and responsible life, but it can take time to get there. You may change your goals and ambitions, and/or your profession frequently in an attempt to find the perfect fit. You may worry about living up to your image, or the expectations of your family. Decisions may be too emotionally biased, or you might act on emotional whims far too often. Learning to set your own heartfelt goals is the challenge here, as it is unlikely you will find true happiness if you follow or adopt the expectations of others, which you are especially sensitive to.

You can be precocious, animated, and passionate. You seek emotional excitement in your life. Although you often project a brave and tough image, your skin isn’t as thick as you’d have others believe. You tend to put up defenses due to your emotionally vulnerable and excitable disposition. Unrest is characteristic, as you are bored by routine and become easily frustrated when life is “too easy”. There’s a buzz of energy surrounding you, and you tend to meet with many conflicts in your life. With the opposition, the conflict tends to be lived through relationships. The passions are quite raw, especially in youth.

If you can channel your excitable energy into sports or some other competitive field, it’s all the better. Although you can be a decidedly amiable and interesting person, others always seem to sense your boundaries. Something is bound to get you worked up, and it’s not always clear what that something will be. Your bluntness can be both appreciated and considered offensive, depending on your audience! You are eager to make a personal impact on those around you. It is possible that you are too eager in this sense, and you come across as self-absorbed and difficult to stomach. Patience is definitely not your strong point! Your responses are quick, and you are a passionate person who is usually quite courageous although your energy is sporadic and sometimes wasted. You are sexually responsive.

You are very emotional and are driven to do things by your emotions. Sometimes you do not think things over or through in a certain situation. You are irascible and easily fired up. But you mostly control your feelings because you have a sense of duty, of self-esteem and are prudent. You can concentrate on a long-term task, manual or intellectual. You persevere and are serious in everything you do.

You have intense emotions and passionate feelings. Your love life or marital life may be riddled with emotional scenes, jealousy, and possessiveness from your partner because you attract intense partners.

You are unhappily influenced by the family. You are probably loved insufficiently by your father, but on the contrary received more love from your mother. So you are susceptible, have superficial sensitivity and are sometimes irascible.

You are enthusiastic, humorous, and sometimes moralistic. You have strong opinions, and often shares them! You are a democrat, philosopher, tolerant, and respectful of laws. You are interested in foreign places and learning more languages. You always believe that everything teaches you something.

Your intelligence is geared towards ways of making money, becoming rich. You have a very practical mind and intelligence, seeing the obvious, most logical answer to any predicament often before others. You don’t like to be put on the spot or pushed into talking or coming to a conclusion. Studies are similar–you need to work at your own steady pace. You can be quite one-track minded at times, not very happy with multi-tasking, and often quite fixed in your opinions. Sensual stimuli are more relevant to you than abstract concepts.

You are intelligent, have big ideas. You are also tolerant and have a strong sense of justice. You have good judgment, good sense, and have your feet on the ground. You have the “gift of the gab”, and like to speak, you also like literature. You are erudite and will normally be successful socially.

You are perspicacious, ingenious: You bind intelligence and originality together with genius. You like literature. You are spontaneous in your friendships and know how to handle the situations that arise.

You have interest for emotions and values, exchange and sharing with others.
You will try to win your lover’s heart by displaying self-control, presence of mind, and responsible behavior. You want your lover to know you are a goal-oriented, witty, savvy, and controlled. Nobody can get the best of you. You want your lover to see just how competent you are. You like some measure of predictability in your relationships as you are cautious in love.

You project an aura of competency and your loner-like behavior can be attractive, in a cool way. You don’t go gaa-gaa over love, or at least you don’t express as much. Your lover may complain you are a little too practical and deliberate. Certainly, you can come across as lacking in warmth and spontaneity. But truth is, you just appear to be that way on the surface during the first phase of relationship. While after, you can be rather a romantic soul who yearn for a partner to share your life with. You are conservative and willing to commit. So you are attracted to serious, goal-oriented lover. You are a little shy in matters of the heart, but you don’t want your lover to know it. If your lover wants to know where your relationship is headed, he will be mighty pleased with you because you plan ahead in love, and, you will let him know exactly where your relationship is headed. You are practical and realistic. You want to impress your lover with the things you do. Your lover needs to appreciate this “saving for a rainy day” attitude of yours, and be aware that you want to show it in a quiet way.

Tangible expressions of love and affection are important to you. Your tastes are usually “simply extravagant”, well-defined, strong, and something you are proud of. Some might feel you have a talent for finding items of value and good taste. You are attracted to items of quality. You may use generosity for your own benefit–in other words, you might give gifts with expectation of reward. Your neck and upper chest are erogenous zones, and your voice is unusually attractive. You generally don’t jump into a new relationship. If you do, your feelings grow gradually. A partner who makes you feel safe and secure is ideal for you. Once committed, your love is long lasting and sincere. You are faithful for life and have strong values so others will find it hard to sway you in this area. Sensual, the world of touch and smell is most appealing to you. Complex or mysterious partner is not as intriguing to you as a simple and genuine one.

Your professional life is unstable. You have a taste for the arts, are a dreamer, easily influenced, and romantic. You are emotional and very sensitive.

Romantic, creative, gentle, and adaptable, you naturally express the finer qualities of mysterious and dreamy in your love relationships. Your imagination is rich and your fantasy world well-developed. You are turned off by rudeness and crudeness, and are drawn to beauty in its many forms. You are very giving and generous, but may be a little on the submissive side, or sometimes downright lazy, failing to take the initiative when situations call for it.

Your emotion and sex life is powerful and rich. You live out truly passionate love.

You love to challenge yourself to do the impossible. You throw yourself into what you decide to do with concentrated energy and awesome willpower. You make formidable opponents, although often quietly so. You keep your cool and your equilibrium on the surface. But below the surface may be another story, and you are unlikely to easily let people in. You have the potential to exploit others–you see through others, and rely heavily on your gut feelings. Your sexual stamina is thought to be the strongest of all. Sometimes, you are attracted to taboos, and your fantasies may involve blowing the taboos to smithereens! You enjoy scenarios in which the “other” is giving in to you, wants you completely, and will do absolutely anything for you. And, your sexual appeal is strong enough that you generally do get what you want.

You find it difficult to share your partner. You have a black-or-white philosophy of life. You are the people who say, “Just choose!” You really are not comfortable with compromise–what kind of satisfaction could you possibly get from compromise? So your partner should really be committed to you only and you could be coolly walk away without drama when your partner is not so into you.

Real living is all about accepting challenges and making changes. You constantly test yourself, and, often, others. You make all kinds of rules and goals, just for the personal satisfaction that comes from achieving or mastering them. Your survival instincts are strong, and you embrace your own animal nature when you are all alone with yourself, without guilt.

You have a provocative quality to you. This quality is usually most evident in youth, though it is often carried over into adulthood in more subtle, controlled ways. You sometimes have low self-esteem and can become mighty twisted. Instead of beating yourself up, you turn self-loathing outward, and end up manipulating others and feeling resentful. While you are constantly striving to bring fairness to the world, you sometimes know that life simply isn’t fair.

All your energy is put into the work life. You love research. So you could be a lab worker, doctor, police officer, teacher, and specializing in hospital, or hospice work.

You are ambitious, have a great capacity for work, have self-confidence and go to the end of your plans.

You represent expansion and grace. You attract the most good-fortune when you are tolerant and fair, inventive, impartial, and cooperative. You value people and personal freedom most. You want to show unique perspective or skills. You are open to new methods and progress. You have great tolerance and humanitarianism.

You like and believe in justice. You are an optimist and are generous. Professional success is rapid and should be supported by the family you build. Family life is very important for you. You like comfort and well-being at home. You know how to entertain in style and above all with pleasure.

You know what’s going on at a glance. You thirst after knowledge and are a good organizer. You are very independent, like your freedom of action, are a non-conformist. You are a very agreeable company to others and are always in demand or sought after.

You have your own way of thinking about a subject and have your own ideas about things. You respect society and its rules guide your conduct.

Weaknesses: hard, unforgiving, rigorous, and sometimes inhuman when your code of conduct is violated.

You can be self-conscious in new situations, especially when young. Your manner is somewhat cautious and guarded. First reactions to new ideas or plans are reticent and somewhat negative, but these are only first reactions. You can be methodical, patient, somewhat distrustful, but polite. You speak little at first and do not waste energy unnecessarily. You have a good memory and sense of organization, like to do things well. You are never slapdash and have a strong sense of responsibility.

You are shy, delicate but proud, bold and lively.

You have a lot of flair. You can do many things well. So you could be unreliable at work sometimes, especially when the work doesn’t fulfill your sense of contentment because you’re always ready for change. You must have an out-of-the-ordinary job you love, in which case all goes well. Otherwise, you will often change jobs to search for the ideal job you want.

You have transcendental liberty, a non-egoistic liberty. You are discerning, wise and sensible.

You prefer not to attach too much value on money, but if this is overdone, there can be quite a few problems in life concerning money and ownership. You might make money through artistic pursuits, but must avoid the potential pitfalls of putting too much faith in ideas that don’t have enough grounding in reality.

You have a lot of presence. There is something about you that tells the world that you are not the type to be pushed around. Your manner commands respect, and in some cases, fear. You can be quiet or loud, but you always seem powerful and determined. People either love or hate you. You rarely go through life unnoticed. In fact, you are confused when faced with the fact that you get such strong reactions from others. You seem to look right through people, seeing through superficiality. This can be quite intimidating to some, and intriguing to others. You, in dealing with others, look for answers by reading between the lines. Surface details are discarded when you are getting a feel for people and situations around you.

You value your privacy so much, it can border on paranoia. You have a strong need to control your environment and are expert at strategy. You rarely will blow your chances with impatience, as you plan out your moves carefully and deliberately, relying on your awesome ability to feel out others and situations. You are drawn to down-to-earth, natural partners. Reliability in your partner is very important. You generally look for complete commitment and have little patience with flighty partners.

Nothing is left to chance, everything is calculated, dissected slowly and methodically, twice rather than once, in peace and quiet by yourself. You are introverted, and don’t speak about your plans until they are underway.

You leaved the family home reasonably young. So you like liberty, want a life that is out-of-the-ordinary, and certainly one that does not correspond with mum and dad’s.

You are full of tenderness and sentimentality.

You have ability to command, know how to take up your responsibilities at work. Weak point: you are prone to headaches, or fevers.

Your learning shapes your identity.

You have fertile imagination. You are easily influenced. You like travel.

All the leadership qualities are in you: authority, sense of organization, initiative, and intelligence. You are a fighter.

You search for social and intellectual security.

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How Can Everyone Be Happy?


 

What is happiness?
In philosophy, happiness translates the Greek concept of eudaimonia, and refers to the good life, or flourishing, rather than simply an emotion.
In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being. -wikipedia

Everyone has different views of happiness, different things of what can make them happy, different ways of how to make them happy.
But I can ensure one thing, everyone wants to be happy.
What it is about happiness that it is so important to everyone.

 

How can everyone be happy?

 

If you ask this question to yourself, you might want to take a look on few articles of how everyone pursues their happiness.
Although it’s different to everyone, maybe you could get an inspiration for your own happiness.

 

How to Be Happy (A very good article)
https://www.wikihow.com/Be-Happy

45 Ways to be Happier Instantly
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/ways-to-be-happier-instantly_us_58cc0e1fe4b0be71dcf46b1a

How to Be Happy: The Complete Guide

How to Be Happy: The Complete Guide

How to Be Happy Tips
https://howtobehappy.guru/

10 Ways to be Happier
https://www.realsimple.com/health/mind-mood/emotional-health/10-ways-happier

How to Be Happy

 

Please remember that,
When there’s sadness, there’s happiness.
There’s nothing eternal in this world.
Happiness doesn’t last, but so does sadness.
Everything is going to be okay.
So never lose hope.

 

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